Name Change Help

NicoleandMichael Posted: Sep 27, 2011 01:22 PM

Name Change Help

I am getting married in a few months, and I would like to know what you are all doing when it comes to changing your name.

I have my professional certifications in my maiden name, although I am beginning a new career and I am not yet 'known'.

FH said he said that its my choice, and he supports whatever I decide to do with changing/hyphenating or whatever with the last name.

I have friends that have done both taking their husband's last name and hyphenating their last names.

I really would like to know what you ladies are doing with your last names. Thanks ladies!!

IrishAli Posted: Sep 27, 2011 01:23 PM

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I did not change mine. DH didn't care

LoveyDovey Posted: Sep 27, 2011 01:25 PM

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I changed mine both personally and professionally

i want share the same name of our children(one day)

plus I like the idea of taking his name

adelz Posted: Sep 27, 2011 01:28 PM

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Posted by LoveyDovey

I changed mine both personally and professionally

i want share the same name of our children(one day)

plus I like the idea of taking his name

Ditto...I haven't legally changed it yet because I'm adding the initial of my maiden name as my middle name (I don't have a middle name), so once I do that I'm changing it officially to his last name, personally and professionally.

AugustFeather Posted: Sep 27, 2011 01:31 PM

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I am in the process of changing it now through S.S. I am excited to be Mrs..... T :)
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chliekm Posted: Sep 27, 2011 01:37 PM

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I'm going to change it personally and professionally.. they can always change the names on your certifications and diplomas if that is important to you.

IrishAli Posted: Sep 27, 2011 01:43 PM

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It might just be me, but I have a huge problem being told that your achievements mean less, so give up your identity because you are not a man.

mccoyrh Posted: Sep 27, 2011 01:54 PM

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My FH assumed I was going to hyphenate my name. So I told him why wouldn't I take his name. That being said, I'm leaning towards hyphenation. As my daughter says, 'If I ever get married I'm keeping McCoy.' She's funny. The decision is ultimately yours.

Good luck.

pjc92980 Posted: Sep 27, 2011 01:59 PM

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legally i plan to hyphenate (waiting til after our honeymoon in Feb - the flights and my passport are in my maiden name)
but professionally i am not changing it

AwaitingAugust Posted: Sep 27, 2011 02:04 PM

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i haven't changed my name ... but i probably will if / when we start thinking of having children ... or maybe not ... we'll see

Chanwich Posted: Sep 27, 2011 04:39 PM

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I hyphenated. I need to at least partially keep my maiden name for work, although I would have loved to have just kept it all together. But it was important to DH so I hyphenated it.

TapTapGal Posted: Sep 28, 2011 12:34 AM

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Posted by Chanwich

I hyphenated. I need to at least partially keep my maiden name for work, although I would have loved to have just kept it all together. But it was important to DH so I hyphenated it.

This

ellablackelly Posted: Sep 28, 2011 01:18 AM

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I think it is very personal, so you have to make your choice by yourself~

cheercoach Posted: Sep 28, 2011 10:05 AM

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I'm keeping mine

MrsJPH2012 Posted: Sep 28, 2011 10:45 AM

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Posted by IrishAli

It might just be me, but I have a huge problem being told that your achievements mean less, so give up your identity because you are not a man.

This exactly!!! I hate this!!

I move around a lot in the military, so you're constantly meeting and working with new people. If I change my name, people will no longer be able to find me unless they remember my new last name, so its like starting over.

FH was really hurt that I'm considering not changing it until I get out, but he doesn't understand that my name is my career.

And I can't just keep it professionally... I work for the government, my legal name IS my name, I wear it on my shirt, lol

Almost Mrs JCR Posted: Sep 30, 2011 09:25 AM

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I am going to keep my name for as long as possible. I have no problem if someone refers to me as Mrs. R, but I am not comfortable taking a completely different name and losing that part of my identity. However, I don't know how I would feel about having a different last name as our children, so at that point I might hyphenate it legally, but would probably still use my maiden name professionally.