Need Advice

So I have been putting this off since I got engaged a year and a half ago....and sinse the wedding is almost a year away and I am taking the bridal party to pick out dresses next month..hte pressure is on.

So I have 5 bridesmaids. All of which I asked already....the problem is I have no MOH. The BM consist of my sister, to friends form high school and two from college. I am not particuly closer to any one friend...they have all been extremely close to me at one point or another and have played different roles in my life. My sister is almost 18 and we are VERY different and not very close. She is still a bit imature and still finding herself.

Anyway I dont know what to do. There is one friend that I would ask, she is super helpful and enthusiatic about the wedding, but we dont talk all that often (she is on LI and I am in MD). I also feel that if I ask my sister....I may regret it. Sometimes she can be difficult as teenagers often are.

Sorry this is so long...but my FI is not help and I think my Mom is sick of hearing about wedding stuff.

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Posted by Suzannebride

What if you picked 2- your sister and you LI friend? That way the helpful friend can keep your sister in line and your sister can be helpful with the local things the LIer can't take care of?

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Just to clarify I am the only one in MD...all but one of the BM are on LI including my sister...this is a good idea though...because I feel obligated to ask my sister, but I afraid she is just not going to pull through with making sure my veil is straight or keeping me calm...all the things you need a maid of honor for the day of and weeks before.

So if I did chose both how do I word it to my friends. that I need her to basically to be the main MOH... I fell like having to defeats the purpose of specifying soemone as MOH...Im rambling

i'm not close to my sister. AT ALL. we are 2 polar opposites.

i asked her to be my MOH and my best friend (johnny&maur) to be my matron of honor. that way i'll have them BOTH included. Maureen will do all the 'dirty work' like fix my train and that type of stuff, as well as plan the bachelorette party. and she's in virginia while i'm in LI...that part really doesn't matter

my sister...welll...she'll be my sister. even though she's here on LI with me.

do what makes you happy. don't have a MOH at all if you don't want to! or have your friend. or have them both! just make sure YOU'RE happy!