Need Advice

October Bliss Posted: Jul 22, 2006 03:28 PM

Need Advice

Some of you might remember the vent I posted a few weeks ago about the guy from pool that keeps inviting himself to the wedding.

Last night I was talking with FH and I made a comment about how I can't uninvite people because two couples that I had planned on seating together are no longer speaking to one another. FH made a smart aleck remark about how I already uninvited said guy from pool. I replied that I did no such thing, since every single time Doug mentioned the wedding my response was always either 'what makes you think you're invited' or I just flat out said he wasn't invited. So, FH says, well every time he mentioned it to me, I told him not to worry he was invited.

Now, FH knows I didn't want to invite him in the first place because I told him that the very first time he asked if we were going to invite Doug. He also knows that I have repeatedly told Doug he isn't invited.

So, do I bite the bullet and invite him, or do I stick to my guns and not invite him???

Invites went in the mail today, and I can get serious revenge about the whole inviting himself routine by making sure he knows they are out and he wasn't included b/c he behaved like an arse.

MrsH1156 Posted: Jul 22, 2006 03:32 PM

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Hi Darlene! The promise I made to myself is that once invites are out, NO ONE gets added to the invite list. If you had no intention of inviting him in the first place, stick to your guns and leave him off the list.

ewickens Posted: Jul 22, 2006 08:59 PM

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Hey Darlene! I would say wait on inviting him. First, you're not that thrilled with him anyway. Secondly, just wait for a no to come in and decide then if he should be invited. You want to surround yourself with positive, supportive, caring people on your day, not people who have been a PIYA!!!

hmpena Posted: Jul 22, 2006 09:19 PM

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I honestly would not invite him. It seems pretty clear that you don't want him there. Your wedding day should be shared with those you care about and want to cleberate with. If you don't want to do this with this guy, then you don't have to. It's your wedding day and you should have the people there who you want, not people who so rudely invite themselves.

OctoberPrincess2006 Posted: Jul 23, 2006 12:04 PM

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Posted by craigshunny

Hi Darlene! The promise I made to myself is that once invites are out, NO ONE gets added to the invite list. If you had no intention of inviting him in the first place, stick to your guns and leave him off the list.

good advice.

October Bliss Posted: Jul 24, 2006 12:19 AM

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Posted by craigshunny

Hi Darlene! The promise I made to myself is that once invites are out, NO ONE gets added to the invite list. If you had no intention of inviting him in the first place, stick to your guns and leave him off the list.

Good advice, except that FH already told the guy he was invited.

seta Posted: Jul 24, 2006 07:16 AM

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i understand that fh told him you were invited. you just have to think...do you see this guy often? is it going to be akward for you both if u don't?

honestly if you don't want him there, i think u need to make the final decision with fh...he is the one who is going to be running in to him after he told him he was invited...

lastly...like hollie said, you should not be surrounded by people you don't like on your big day...so if he is going to damper, then forget my first two paragraphs and don't invite him....

good luck!