I found out that my ex bf passed away on Sunday night, his wake is tomorrow, should I go? We didnt leave off on bad terms, we kept in touch up until recently. I never really got along with his fiance because I was the last girl he dated before her. I feel like I want to go to pay my respects, but then I think about what if it was me, and dh passed, how would I feel if his ex gf showed up..what would you do?
Maybride519
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Were you still keeping in touch with the family? If so, I would say go. If not, it might be better to just send a mass card to the family.
snydl40
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I agree-maybe just send a mass card.
JXNOscar
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Honestly if you want to go to say goodbye for yourself then you should definately go.
I would maybe go to the daytime one since less people will be there.
Sorry
Preshy7
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his fiance is obviously hurting in a horrible way.
to have you show up i think would make things worse.
I really think that you should not go and just send a mass card.
im very sorry for your los thouygh...how sad.
MrsBrags7706
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Posted by Preshy7
his fiance is obviously hurting in a horrible way.
to have you show up i think would make things worse.
I really think that you should not go and just send a mass card.
im very sorry for your los thouygh...how sad.
I agree. His Fiance, I couldn't even imagine what the poor thing is going through. I wouldn't even suggest day, because she might be there. Send a mass card. You can always visit the grave once, ya know? Additionally, I think if the situation was reversed, and my DH [or FH as past tense] died, to see his ex-girlfriend there, I would go off the deep end, and would just make me feel worse. I would also feel like she would have no business being there. thats just me though.
HTH and I'm very sorry for your loss.
MrsBrags7706
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but then again, if DH goes with you, at least ,maybe it wouldnt be that bad as if u were going alone?
kahlua716
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I would definitely go...just make it brief. Go in, pay your respects and leave. Just make sure to acknowledge his fiance....if you ignore her you'll just look resentful. Good Luck!
kahlua716
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PS-- it wouldn't bother me to see FHs ex-es if (GOD FORBID) anything ever happened to him. It would just prove that there are many people who love or have loved him. In the end he chose ME, what is there to be mad about? JMHO...no offense to those who wouldn't go...its all about your comfort level
Now, if it was his mistress or something, that would be a different story.
ETA-- I'm sorry for your loss
angnick
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i would probably go, bad terms or not
MrsBrags7706
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well i dislike all of DH's exgirlfriends, so I wouldnt want any of them to show up . . . thats just me though.
