need advice

well - i hate to say it, but ur first mistake was having ur FH say something... if u saw it and u were aware that it was the same as yours, the best thing to do would probably have been to nicely talk to her about it. If she knew about it BEFORE she went and got a trial, u should still absolutely talk to her. don't fight with her - just ask her why she did that knowing it was ur 'do' & that u'd really appreciate it if she did something different. lol and not for anything but why is she getting a trial anyways being that she's just a bridesmaid?? if u talk to her and she STILL has an attitude, maybe her mother could talk to her?? how old is she anyway??

ps: if she doesn't budge, i'd let it go. she's probably TRYING to piss u off(like u said) and is getting satisfaction by doing so. i know it'll be annoying, but if the hairdo isn't something that's entirely unique, KNOW that that day all eyes will be on YOU, and NOONE will even blink an eye or notice the fact that her hair is the same as yours..YOU'RE different because u're the bride nobody can trump u on ur day no matter how hard they try