So, my friend (not in my BP) invited one of her friends (who I have never met before and never even heard her talk about) to MY bachelorette party. She didn't ask me... she just told my MOH that she was bringing a friend. And to be honest, it really messes things up! Not to mention that i don't even know this girl and think it's weird that someone I don't know would be flying out to Vegas and spending money to come to my bachelorette party. And I don't even know if she would get along with my friends! It's one thing to go to the city, fire island or even AC, but to VEGAS?!
So, what do I say to my friend? I don't even think she knows that I know about her friend coming - she hasn't said a single word to me about it! I just think it's so weird and rude... and I am really annoyed! And I want to make sure I say something before we all start to book our flights, because then the girl will be scr**ed out of a lot of money. ARGH!
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yikes!
i'd be pissed too
honestly, I'd let your MOH handle it
and if you really have to do it then tell her nicely that you really wanted it to be a close knit party and you would feel more comfortable if it was just your good friends...just be honest, nothing more you can do than that!
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either you or the MOH have to tell her how you feel immediately
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maybe have one of the BMs say something along the lines of 'if your friend comes were gonna have to get an extra hotel room and thats gonna up the cost for everyone' maybe if the other people contributing to the party make it seem like they'd have to spend more having an extra person and it just comes down to a money thing she would get the hint and not bring her friend. atleast if you blame it on money its not like anyones blantanly saying 'we dont want this girl there'
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I would let your friend know or let your MOH tell ur friend. You should have who you want there. It's your party. I made sure I let my MOH know who was and who was not invited to mine. Mainly for the purpose that I didn't want them inviting someone who we aren't having at the wedding but also to ensure we wouldn't have people that don't get along trying to place nice for a weekend.
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That's awkward! I would ask her to meet her first before she comes out to Vegas. Who knows maybe she's cool
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ahhhh FH and I are in a similar situation. His friend invited a friend of his to vegas and we were both like WHYYYY?!
My friend also mentioned she might invite a guy of hers FH and I are having a Jack and Jill but doesn't mean we want RANDOM people?! I don't know where this guy is going to stay since girls are getting separate rooms from guys and why would FH want a random guy in his room.
SOrry! People are just weird sometimes...I have no advice, this all just happened days ago for us
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Since she told your MOH, I would have your MOH handle it. I hope it works out....
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It is really weird that she is willing to travel to Vegas for someone she dosen't even know (meaning you). What I would do is call your MOH and just simply tell her that it got to your ears that ('thingy') is going and first of all you dont know who she is..she is not invited to your wedding so therefore.. PLEASE DONT INVITE HER or anyone else.
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Posted by LoveyDovey
yikes!
i'd be pissed too
honestly, I'd let your MOH handle it
and if you really have to do it then tell her nicely that you really wanted it to be a close knit party and you would feel more comfortable if it was just your good friends...just be honest, nothing more you can do than that!
ITA. Who does that?
I hope it all works out!
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'12er crashing
It's definitely weird but honestly, it wouldn't bother me. Maybe your friend told her about it and she wanted to come along. Maybe she's never been to Vegas before so she saw it as an opportunity to go? You'll be with the rest of your friends anyway.
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I would def talk to her about it asap. Just explain that you would have liked it if she asked you first before inviting other girls to your bachelorette party...
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Posted by SoonToBeMrsCali
Since she told your MOH, I would have your MOH handle it. I hope it works out....
ITA
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I would take this up with my MOH ASAP!
You must be a very very sweet person, because if this were me, there would be HELL 2 PAY!
I would never want an 'outsider' mixing in with my friends. Girls are nasty and catty as it is, who the hell knows what this girl is gonna bring to the mix.
And she's not coming to celebrate your Bachelorette Party. She's using this as an excuse to go party in Vegas, and as far as she's concerned, it just so happens to be your bachelorette party during HER trip.
I am sorry that you're going thru this drama, but you really need to nip it in the bud PRONTO!
Hang in there, I'm sure it will all work itself out
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Thank you ladiesssssss! I know exactly what I need to do now! You're the best!
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Posted by leighlo1226
either you or the MOH have to tell her how you feel immediately
This!
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I agree with everyone else! I would just telll MOH that you really don't want anyone there but youre close friends and she should tell ur friend that.
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be honest talk to your friend and tell her she should have asked you before if she could bring someone. It is your bachelorette party just say you will feel uncomfortable having someone you don't know there.
