Need advice - Bachelorette Party related - long
I've been thinking about this for a few weeks now, and I truly don't think that I want one. There are a few reasons. The first is that, I am not a partier at all. I am very quiet and low-key, and I don't drink.
What I had originally been thinking of for my bachelorette party was to just hang out at someone's house and play stupid games like 'pin the you-know-what on the naked man.' All the guests would be asked to bring a snack and their fave alcohol (for them, not me). And then at the end, we'd have a Passion Party.
I really don't have many female friends that would even be able to come. At max, there'd be 15 ladies there, and that's including all my OOTers who I sincerely doubt would come. So, I am thinking the party would be more like 7-8 girls (including my BP). I feel like the money and planning that would need to go into this would just be way more than necessary.
The last (and prob most important in my mind) reason is that my 4 BP girls don't really get along. I've got my MOH and BM who are my 2 best friends and then the other 2 BMs are FSILs. I KNOW there's been drama between them with the planning of my shower and I seriously just cannot deal. I've gotten past being anxious about my shower (whenever it happens) by saying there will be a ton of women there and I won't even be concentrating on my BP's feeling's towards each other. But, I just feel like with only a few of us sitting around someone's house (prob FSIL's), and half of them disliking each other, all it's gonna do is make me anxious and be awkward.
That all being said, I have already discussed this w/ my 2 best friends and they are fine w/ no party and understand my reasons. They said maybe the 2 of them will just take me out for a nice dinner or a massage or something. My question is how to tell my 2 FSILs? I can easily tell them I don't want something b/c no one would come, but I feel like their next response will be 'Ok then the 4 of us BP members will take you out,' and that is the last thing I want. Neither of my FSILs under- stand my anxiousness or just generally how I am, and I don't want to bring up anything about the 4 of them not getting along b/c I don't want to hear about it!
I just don't know what to say or do... I don't know if there's a way to avoid telling them the 'main' reason at all. Even FH doesn't know I am considering this, yet. I have to talk to him this weekend.
Sorry this is so long - if anyone has any advice, I'd love to hear it. Thanks, ladies.![]()
What I had originally been thinking of for my bachelorette party was to just hang out at someone's house and play stupid games like 'pin the you-know-what on the naked man.' All the guests would be asked to bring a snack and their fave alcohol (for them, not me). And then at the end, we'd have a Passion Party.
I really don't have many female friends that would even be able to come. At max, there'd be 15 ladies there, and that's including all my OOTers who I sincerely doubt would come. So, I am thinking the party would be more like 7-8 girls (including my BP). I feel like the money and planning that would need to go into this would just be way more than necessary.
The last (and prob most important in my mind) reason is that my 4 BP girls don't really get along. I've got my MOH and BM who are my 2 best friends and then the other 2 BMs are FSILs. I KNOW there's been drama between them with the planning of my shower and I seriously just cannot deal. I've gotten past being anxious about my shower (whenever it happens) by saying there will be a ton of women there and I won't even be concentrating on my BP's feeling's towards each other. But, I just feel like with only a few of us sitting around someone's house (prob FSIL's), and half of them disliking each other, all it's gonna do is make me anxious and be awkward.
That all being said, I have already discussed this w/ my 2 best friends and they are fine w/ no party and understand my reasons. They said maybe the 2 of them will just take me out for a nice dinner or a massage or something. My question is how to tell my 2 FSILs? I can easily tell them I don't want something b/c no one would come, but I feel like their next response will be 'Ok then the 4 of us BP members will take you out,' and that is the last thing I want. Neither of my FSILs under- stand my anxiousness or just generally how I am, and I don't want to bring up anything about the 4 of them not getting along b/c I don't want to hear about it!
I just don't know what to say or do... I don't know if there's a way to avoid telling them the 'main' reason at all. Even FH doesn't know I am considering this, yet. I have to talk to him this weekend.
Sorry this is so long - if anyone has any advice, I'd love to hear it. Thanks, ladies.
