One of my bms is not working. She is making a great effort in finding a job. (she had a job when I asked her to be my bm) I ordered and paid in advance for the bm gowns. I told her way in advance the price of the gown and always reminded her before and after I ordered the gown. The other bms paid me. Also, I had another bm with no job but she paid me. When I gave her the gown, she said she would pay me when she got a job. I told her that I could wait but that I don't want to be insensitive about it but the wedding is two months away and I can really use the money to pay for the upcoming expenses. What should I do?? Should I ask for half of the $$? Anyone who had similar situation?
ChrissynRicky
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If you don't mind me asking, but how much was the BM dress? It's a rough situation, and I was in it. My MOH was w/out a job when I asked her to be my MOH b/c she's my BBF. However, since then, she's found a job and given me money towards her dress in incriments. In the end, I didn't stress it b/c the dresses aren't more than $200 each.
lullabella
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Do you need the money now that bad?? I would not ask her. She said she would pay you when she got a job and that is the way I would leave it. I am sure she is going to have other expenses associated with being in your wedding so it is probably alot on her right now.
champagnebride
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$140 is the amount. I was thinking of asking her for half if she can do it. what do you think
leighdvm
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Personally, I wouldn't ask for it. It's not like she's not looking for a job and she's probably stressed about it as it is. I'd tell her to pay me whenever she can. I paid for one of my BM dresses because she recently moved to another state and didn't have a pot to pee in. It was more important for her to be in my party, you know?
lullabella
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Posted by champagnebride
$140 is the amount. I was thinking of asking her for half if she can do it. what do you think
Honestly I wouldn't. Do you need the $70 that bad?? Bad enough to make your BM feel like crap because she can't afford to pay for the dress now.
pbscutie
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I agree with the other girls on this one. I wouldn't ask her for the money right now. I would just be happy that she is in my wedding party and there for me on my big day!
iffer042373
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Depending on what your spending for the BM's gifts. Maybe tell her that you will pay for part of the dress as your gift to her.
buggiegirl
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I absolutely would not ask for the money at all! In my situation, we are already so overextended that another $140 wouldn't matter!
Besides- what goes around comes around- wouldn't you like her to help you out if the roles were reversed? JMO!
champagnebride
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Thank you for all for your advice!
LuckyMe
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To ask for the money now would probably make her feel like crap and resent you asking knowing her situation, especially if you say she's looking. This could put a strain on your friendship and make her feel uncomfortable at your wedding. JMO
