So I'm writing this from the hospital the FH has been in here since thurs night because they had to do emergency surgery for the 4 th time he has a staff infection in his knee again! Anyway vie been here morning till night and today sunday I have my co workers wedding at 5 30 and I don't know what to do. It kills me to leave him here and go to the wedding i jjust feel horrible to do that knowing how much pain he is in. But I dont want my friend to be upset with me I really don't know what to do! Either way I feel like I'm gonna be feeling bad either way! I don't know what to do girls what would you do?
adelz
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I would probably stay in the hospital - and contact somebody to let them know you are not able to attend. Since the bride is probably busy getting ready, etc., maybe send a note to someone else in the bridal party or someone from your office that can relay the message. Then, if you were planning on giving them a gift or card, I would just give it to her next time you see her or send it to their home with a note of apology. I'm sure she'd more than understand the circumstances!
Hope your FH gets better!!!
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Posted by adelz
I would probably stay in the hospital - and contact somebody to let them know you are not able to attend. Since the bride is probably busy getting ready, etc., maybe send a note to someone else in the bridal party or someone from your office that can relay the message. Then, if you were planning on giving them a gift or card, I would just give it to her next time you see her or send it to their home with a note of apology. I'm sure she'd more than understand the circumstances!
Hope your FH gets better!!!
She said it best. I would do this!
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Posted by adelz
I would probably stay in the hospital - and contact somebody to let them know you are not able to attend. Since the bride is probably busy getting ready, etc., maybe send a note to someone else in the bridal party or someone from your office that can relay the message. Then, if you were planning on giving them a gift or card, I would just give it to her next time you see her or send it to their home with a note of apology. I'm sure she'd more than understand the circumstances!
Hope your FH gets better!!!
She said it best. I would do this!
YESS
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Well were teachers so she couldn't invite a lot if people and she only invited me and her teacher assistant to the wedding. And I don't have that the ladies number so what do I do then? And did I mention I had the stomach virus for ger bachelrette party! I feel like it looks so bad n u look terrible not going but ahhhh I really hate being in this situation
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But maybe she would do the same right? And I can give her more money? It's just killing me thinking of leaving him like I wouldn't want him to do that to me either ugh I wish this didn't happen
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Well were teachers so she couldn't invite a lot if people and she only invited me and her teacher assistant to the wedding. And I don't have that the ladies number so what do I do then? And did I mention I had the stomach virus for ger bachelrette party! I feel like it looks so bad n u look terrible not going but ahhhh I really hate being in this situation [/QUOT
Is it close enough for you to literally stop by at ?? I agree you're ok not going, but if you feel really bad - maybe try and stop by and say hi - give gift - and tell her FH is in hospital
BTW what does FH say
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He says to go but I know he's gonna say that because he doesn't want me to woRry and feel bad! She knows he's been in here bc I had to leave work on Thursday ahh it's a ceremony n reception at the swan club maybe I can stop by but then I feel like I should just stay? Ahhhhhhhhhh
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what is your gut telling you?
I think you should stop by and say you're stopping by bc the dr will be back later, or something like that
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crashing! maybe just go to the ceremony at the church and then hand your envelope to her MOH or something and slip out! this way she sees your face and you're in and out pretty quickly! (I agree that you are def not under an obligation to even show tho!) :) HTH!
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crashing! maybe just go to the ceremony at the church and then hand your envelope to her MOH or something and slip out! this way she sees your face and you're in and out pretty quickly! (I agree that you are def not under an obligation to even show tho!) :) HTH!
Definitely this if it's close by. She will appreciate that you came to see her get married...
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Well were teachers so she couldn't invite a lot if people and she only invited me and her teacher assistant to the wedding. And I don't have that the ladies number so what do I do then? And did I mention I had the stomach virus for ger bachelrette party! I feel like it looks so bad n u look terrible not going but ahhhh I really hate being in this situation
If you can just go to the ceremony like the other ladies said, that would be probably best thing you can do, and then give someone the gift/envelope. She will completely understand!
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The ceremonies at the swan club...and roslyn... the reception... Ahh maybe I can go to the ceremony n c her for a lu Il bit and bring the gift n then come back here maybe they'll let me stay over the nugget in the hospital so I can be with him longer
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Posted by Watermelon5
crashing! maybe just go to the ceremony at the church and then hand your envelope to her MOH or something and slip out! this way she sees your face and you're in and out pretty quickly! (I agree that you are def not under an obligation to even show tho!) :) HTH!
I like this idea! some people had to leave my wedding early or were sick and they came to the ceremony said hello right after and left...im sure she'll understand.
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I would probably stay in the hospital - and contact somebody to let them know you are not able to attend. Since the bride is probably busy getting ready, etc., maybe send a note to someone else in the bridal party or someone from your office that can relay the message. Then, if you were planning on giving them a gift or card, I would just give it to her next time you see her or send it to their home with a note of apology. I'm sure she'd more than understand the circumstances!
Hope your FH gets better!!!
completely agree. I hope he gets better soon!
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ang anyone that really knows you knows you wouldn't just make up an excuse to get out of anything! I would try and go to the ceremony drop the envelope (if you want put an extra 25 in) and explain to her the situation. love you my dear and tell Ben to feel better!
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if you can go to the ceremony which will be short if it is at the reception and say hi. I think it is totally fine if you can't leave him though. That is a totally understandable situation. She can't get mad @ that
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Posted by adelz
I would probably stay in the hospital - and contact somebody to let them know you are not able to attend. Since the bride is probably busy getting ready, etc., maybe send a note to someone else in the bridal party or someone from your office that can relay the message. Then, if you were planning on giving them a gift or card, I would just give it to her next time you see her or send it to their home with a note of apology. I'm sure she'd more than understand the circumstances!
Hope your FH gets better!!!
ITA
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ang anyone that really knows you knows you wouldn't just make up an excuse to get out of anything! I would try and go to the ceremony drop the envelope (if you want put an extra 25 in) and explain to her the situation. love you my dear and tell Ben to feel better!
Thanks mama xo
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I would try to go to the ceremony and explain your situation. I am sure she would totally understand and be extremely appreciative that you made the effort to at least come see her get married.
