Next weekend will be my bachelorette party. It will be a spa/gambling weekend in Atlantic City.
One of my BMs needs a ride down there, but wants us to wait until her nephew's birthday party finishes at 3pm on Saturday to pick her up. What the?
It will be a 2 hour trip after that, and we only planned on staying in Atlantic City until Sunday afternoon. So, I told my MOH to forget her because I want to be on the road by noon and have enough time to hit the beach.
(BTW, I will be giving this BM a ride up to the wedding location and letting her stay with me at my house and then in my suite at the hotel so that she doesn't have to pay to stay in any rooms for the weekend of the wedding)
So, to me, I feel like I'm doing enough for this BM and I don't want to have to wait around for her and waste one of the days of my bachelorette party...
suven
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bump because of edit to first sentence
sa070204
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That is absolute craziness. It's you day/weekend.
Tell her to find her own way up or to not go at all.
Some people amaze me!
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That is a hard one you have already made accomodations for her, now to switch up is bad taste...but I do understand it is your day..either ways sounds like drama, do what's in your heart.
september2004
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i think she needs to find her own way if she wants to do both.
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I don't think you should have to wait on her. If she feels she needs to go to the b-day party than that's fine, but she shouldn't expect you to put your day on hold because she has other plans. I would just tell her that you're all leaving at such-and-such time. You realize that she has another committment that day so she will either need to leave the b-day party early or come out to AC on her own. Be prepared for the worst, that she may not come at all.
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i think she needs to find her own way if she wants to do both.
I totally agree!!!
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Definetly sounds like SHE needs to make a choice of what to do & not you. You should carry on as planned and let her go w/ everyone or tell her to take a bus on her own and meet you there. She can get 10.00 in quarters back from the bus.
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I think you should definitely go as you planned. I know from experience that you need to get there early on the weekends. When we go we leave on Saturday in the am because it takes forever with the traffic. We get jammed up before the bridge and again right on the Atlantic City Expressway. Also, did you book your rooms in advance? Twice we had to go home because we took our comp room at Taj for granted. A few concerts were going on and every room in every hotel in AC was booked. I would hate to see that happen to you! Let us know how it goes! That is a great idea going to AC. Have fun!
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Posted by nov.bride
Definetly sounds like SHE needs to make a choice of what to do & not you. You should carry on as planned and let her go w/ everyone or tell her to take a bus on her own and meet you there. She can get 10.00 in quarters back from the bus.
sounds like a plan - tell her to get herself there you cant wait for her till 3 - that is insane- personally i would never let her stay in my suite - will she be there on the wedding night - since you did mention for the weekend - i also think it is tacky for her to have said yes to that JMO
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I concur. There plenty of buses that go down to AC every hour. If she doesn't want to miss the birthday party, then she needs to be responsible for getting herself down there. That is only fair.
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I think its in bad taste that she asked you to wait for her until after her nephews party to leave. Its not right - this is your bachelorette party and time wise its really not do-able! You wouldn't have enough time to do enjoy yourself. I think she either needs to find her own way of meeting you there or not go. Would you be mad at her if she couldn't get there? Maybe she's worried that you'll be upset with her. In either case - its really up to her to decide how shes gonna get there, not leave it up to you!
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let the bachelorette party planners/coordinators handle this one. stay out of it. she is being unreasaonble and i wouldn't get involved. better off having them look like the bad guys instead of you.
