Need advice on my mom

Hello Everyone!

I'm a bride, and i was hoping you would be able to help me out. My mom (who's paying for the reception only, which is totally fabulous that they're paying for anything) is someone who is very good at letting me pick out things such as a dress etc, no problem (typically this is the other way around) My mom is however, someone who asks me why i didn't get measurements of someone who wouldn't be with us at dress shopping, or flips out that one of my girls would be out of state, and the fact I used my FH's Sister. Or the fact that she was upset that one of my bridesmaid's wouldn't be able to make it shopping with us. I know that the larger a wedding party is, etc, the harder it is to get everyone in one place at the same time. This is just an example of what I've been dealing with, but it's not just the bridal party. I feel like if i'm not stressed out, and i'm ok with what's going on, why is she stressed out? I don't live at home, i've been living by myself since I graduated H.S. I'm now two years out of college, had my own apartment for 2 years, and I'm not exactly sure how to deal with my mom, and how to make things work. Because when she gets upset or tells me how she would do things differently, especially when i'm not upset myself, it gets me upset. Please help, or some advice on dealing with my mom would be great.

Thank you ahead of time!!

have you tried telling her that its not stressing you and asking why it stresses her? shes ruining the whole planning proccess for herself and now you.....tell her you appreciate her imput but that the stress isnt necessary....that this is all what is making you happy? maybe she doesnt realize that shes the one upsetting you?

sorry i cant be much help!

Hi- my mom does the same thing- she doesn't try to 'take over', but she gets upset and stressed out about stuff that isn't even an issue or anything that I am stressed about... and it ends up getting me stressed!!

i'm not sure the right answer to this, I've been trying to calmly tell her that it isn't an issue etc... but she's really stubborn so sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't lol. Mostly I'm trying to stay cool and calm and talk to her rationally because I have flipped out before and ended up feeling really bad about it later...

I hope you can talk to her calmly and she will understand!

lol, thanks for your advice, unfortionately I have mentioned that I wasn't stressed about it, then typically i get hung up on.