Need an opinion for FH

JodiBabe Posted: Jan 25, 2003 11:45 AM

Need an opinion for FH

For our wedding he is wearing a black tux with tails. He is tall & thin. I'd like for him to have a top hat for pictures and just to have on at first but he can take it off during reception. Hhe thinks it would look stupid & people would laugh! What do you girls think

JodiBabe Posted: Jan 25, 2003 11:56 AM

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No one?

bride04 Posted: Jan 25, 2003 11:56 AM

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I don't think it would look stupid, especially if he is wearing a tux with tails. And I don't think anyone would laugh at him! Like you said, he can take it off after the pictures. But, I don't think you should force him to wear it if he doesn't want to. You wouldn't want to wear something on your wedding that you were uncomfotable with either. JMO.

JodiBabe Posted: Jan 25, 2003 12:01 PM

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Lisa,

I don't want to force him & I won't. But I told him he could take it off for the reception & he said he'd see how it looked. He said he has never seen it so he thinks it would look stupid & people would laugh.
Wish I could find some pictures to show him.

V&S03 Posted: Jan 25, 2003 12:17 PM

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I don't think it will look stupid but it's definitely something he needs to try on and then decide if he is comfortable. If he is not comfortable in it it will definitely show in the pictures.

Valenia Posted: Jan 25, 2003 12:21 PM

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Honestly? I think it would be a bit goofy, and unless he is a super-confident showy guy he might not pull it off right, and look a bit funny. I doubt anyone would actually laugh, but I think he would most likely look better in something more mainstream.

cw0904 Posted: Jan 25, 2003 02:04 PM

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I think it would be fine if he is comfortable wearing it. Its very classic looking. Very British like. As long as he has the ensemble that goes well with the hat, it shouldn't be a problem.

dkga1026 Posted: Jan 25, 2003 02:14 PM

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Sorry, but I have to agree with Valenia..Have him wear something thats all 'him', your pics will look better that way JMHO

jms0176 Posted: Jan 25, 2003 02:36 PM

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Hmmm...I don't know. I wouldn't bother with a hat. When we went to the tuxedo place, the man who fitted DH took his stature, height etc into consideration when he helped us pick a style that flattered him.

EvenEdan Posted: Jan 25, 2003 04:52 PM

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I don't think he should wear the top hat, unless he is super confident about it and a flashy guy. If it doesn't suit his personality, skip it. Imagine if he asked you to wear something on your wedding day that totally wasn't your taste. I know my fiance would look ridiculous in a top hat because everyone that knows him would see my influence right through it. Also, it might be one of those things that in two, five, ten years you both will cringe when you see the photos.

Helene718 Posted: Jan 25, 2003 05:45 PM

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I'm thinking no for the reasons already listed, but also won't he have 'hat hair' at the reception after taking his hat off? Also, are you getting married in a church because I think men are supposed to remove their hats when entering a church. Just some things to consider.

balilove Posted: Jan 25, 2003 06:44 PM

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I'm not a big fan of the black on black tux with tails and the top hat. It reminds me of Fred Astaire and preformers on broadway. If he still doesn't like it after he tries the whole outfit on in the tux place don't force him to wear it. I wouldn't want my FH to force me to wear something I didn't like.

Stacey1403 Posted: Jan 25, 2003 07:06 PM

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I'm not a fan of the top hat either and have to agree that if he isn't into it why force him? IMHO

avesur Posted: Jan 25, 2003 07:15 PM

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for what I know, the only tux that needs you to wear hat is the grey tux that British call the 'morning tails' It is that suit that has greyish tones. I think that actually the had would make him look taller ... it adds inches, just my opinion.

Good luck,

Elena

cluelessbride Posted: Jan 25, 2003 07:53 PM

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I think if he's not completely excited to wear it, then don't push the issue. His discomfort will be apparent. Also, personally I think top hats are kind of silly, but that's my $.02

JodiBabe Posted: Jan 25, 2003 08:24 PM

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Thanks everyone....

We are not getting married in church but at the reception site.

I told if he doesn't want to then that is fine!

Although I have seen him in it when he was in a show and he looks great I would never force it on him. I do want him to be comfortable and after talking to him more about it tonight I told him it would be fine if he didn't.

jennbaby Posted: Jan 25, 2003 09:04 PM

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I think he should wear whatever he likes and feels comfortable in.
Good Luck

lulu Posted: Jan 25, 2003 10:56 PM

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I don't really like the look of a top hat. If your FH doesn't feel comfortable wearing one, I don't think you should push it..

Sassy Posted: Jan 26, 2003 07:54 AM

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I agree w/the majority. Don't have him wear anything he's even a bit uncomfortable in. He'll be nervous enough as it is, and then to have this hat on his head and worrying about how he looks will make it worse. So instead of looking dapper, he'll look nervous and uneasy. But so far it seems you're on the right track.