NEED HELP! Do I HAVE to invite someone I sent a STD to??

rmiller2255 Posted: Mar 03, 2011 09:06 AM

NEED HELP! Do I HAVE to invite someone I sent a STD to??

There's this girl who I used to be really really close with, I worked with her and she was kind of my boss but we would hang out on a weekly basis for 9 months.

She was laid off from my company last March and we grew apart, no bad terms we just stopped talking and never see each other. We'll randomly im each other or talk through Facebook. I sent her a STD but now I don't want to invite her to the wedding, do I have to?

I think if we did send her an invite she wouldn't come anyway because it's too far on the Island and she lives in the city...

NEED ADVICE!!!!

AugustFeather Posted: Mar 03, 2011 09:07 AM

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I've been contemplating the same thing with someone!

jettahot Posted: Mar 03, 2011 09:09 AM

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IMO only, you dont HAVE to do anything you really dont want to do!
IT is ettiquette, I beleive, to invite those you sent STD's to, BUT, things change in life and in relationships and friendships and I personally wouldnt do it if you dont want to!!

PS- thats why we didnt so any STD's to co workers !!
good luck girl!

leesah85 Posted: Mar 03, 2011 09:12 AM

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Posted by jettahot

IMO only, you dont HAVE to do anything you really dont want to do!
IT is ettiquette, I beleive, to invite those you sent STD's to, BUT, things change in life and in relationships and friendships and I personally wouldnt do it if you dont want to!!

PS- thats why we didnt so any STD's to co workers !!
good luck girl!

ITA with this

Cataverri Posted: Mar 03, 2011 09:13 AM

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We sort of have the same issue. FH stared a job last week and we gave his 2 previous bosses an STD (wooo that didn't sound right), but anyways....We are still inviting them to the wedding.

IMO I think that if you send the STD is better that you invite her, I doubt she would come throught.

ColliMac23 Posted: Mar 03, 2011 09:24 AM

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Posted by Cataverri

We sort of have the same issue. FH stared a job last week and we gave his 2 previous bosses an STD (wooo that didn't sound right), but anyways....We are still inviting them to the wedding.

IMO I think that if you send the STD is better that you invite her, I doubt she would come throught.

That didn't sound right

I would invite her since it's no bad terms but its your call

Cataverri Posted: Mar 03, 2011 09:26 AM

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Posted by ColliMac23

Posted by Cataverri

We sort of have the same issue. FH stared a job last week and we gave his 2 previous bosses an STD (wooo that didn't sound right), but anyways....We are still inviting them to the wedding.

IMO I think that if you send the STD is better that you invite her, I doubt she would come throught.

That didn't sound right

I would invite her since it's no bad terms but its your call

Oppssss...

SoonToBeMrsCali Posted: Mar 03, 2011 09:29 AM

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Question, does she ask about your wedding? Does she seem excited??

Why don't you want to invite her anymore?

rmiller2255 Posted: Mar 03, 2011 10:05 AM

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsCali

Question, does she ask about your wedding? Does she seem excited??

Why don't you want to invite her anymore?

I don't talk to her anymore so she doesn't ask....but if I post something on Facebook she always 'likes' it...

I don't want to invite her anymore because we're trying to keep it as small as possible and I'm not even friends with her anymore...

SoonToBeMrsCali Posted: Mar 03, 2011 10:09 AM

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Hmmm ... I think it's etiquette to send to her since you sent her a STD... but if you don't mind following that etiquette then I say don't send her an invite.

Sometimes you lose touch with people but maybe she's also busy but is still really happy for the both of you.

CrazyLove11 Posted: Mar 03, 2011 10:16 AM

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I sent a save the date to a friend july/august last year and I am not sending her an invite. We grew apart - nothing bad, no fight just went in seperate directions.
I know ettiquette says I should, but I don't care about ettiquette in this case!

foundmylove Posted: Mar 03, 2011 10:18 AM

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yea I think you should send her one only if you care about her opionion. because if you dont send her one and she might get made do you care??
Its up to you

ImgonnabeMrsC Posted: Mar 03, 2011 10:34 AM

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omg im going thru the same thing !! I really dont know what to do! Our list is huge already and it would make sence to cut them because I really havent seen or talked to them..but i just dont know :( my wedding is 6 months away, so I guess if we started talking, I'm going to invite them. Who knows though!

madamsireeda213 Posted: Mar 03, 2011 10:46 AM

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hmm...well since you sent her a STD, you would have to send her an invitation. The STD is already like an invitation to your wedding because you are asking your friends and family to 'ave the date'. So i think you should (have to) send her an invitation however she may not even come if you guys arent that close anymore. maybe you should make the wedding less appealing to her like telling her she cant bring a date! haha

Jennielee15 Posted: Mar 03, 2011 11:07 AM

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YES you have to invite her. I mean she could be looking forward to it and have your STD on her fridge waiting for the invite. If you think she won't come then it's just the cost of an invite, and who knows she might send you a gift or something!

HSsweethearts Posted: Mar 03, 2011 01:36 PM

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You still need to invite her. Sorry!

VCanizalez Posted: Mar 03, 2011 02:11 PM

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I would still invite her... if the friendship isnt too close, she will NOT come... she will make that decision...

suzie411 Posted: Mar 03, 2011 02:28 PM

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If u sent an STD then yes, I would say that you need to send an invite. I understand though. I've been going through invite helllll. It's so hard and no one can help! It's so easy for someone to say to cut people off the list. It's not that easy

Rosalind_75 Posted: Mar 03, 2011 02:53 PM

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send her the invite

even if she says no you might get a gift out of it

adelz Posted: Mar 03, 2011 03:11 PM

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I don't think you need to invite her if you don't want to. It's your wedding, relationships change, and you need to do what you want to do. Even if she does have hard feelings over it, since you barely talk to her, I doubt you'll hear anything about it anyway I'm also not etiquette queen, since now I won't be inviting people who I've told I will, because things change and I'm doing what's right for our wedding. I've also realized that I can't do things to make others happy because in the end people just don't appreciate thing

Edited for spelling.