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OOh! Rough. Tell her that since you are the bride and went through the trouble of picking these out, you really want to see it! You can laugh it off and try and make it sound lighter than you really feel....

that stinks!!! Can your FI call her? Why would she hang up? Rude!

Personally, I would not be diplomatic at all about this. I would tell her either show me the dress or don't be in the bridal party. And if the dress is something entirely different, I would tell her to step down. Obviously, she won't let you see it b/c she has something to hide. I think it's pretty obnoxious for her to take it upon herself to find a 'similar' dress without at least consulting you and then refuse to let you see it. AND it further blows my mind that she is not willing to take into consideration your solution to the problem. Eek! Good luck with that!

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Posted by mrsh2b

Personally, I would not be diplomatic at all about this. I would tell her either show me the dress or don't be in the bridal party. And if the dress is something entirely different, I would tell her to step down. Obviously, she won't let you see it b/c she has something to hide. I think it's pretty obnoxious for her to take it upon herself to find a 'similar' dress without at least consulting you and then refuse to let you see it. AND it further blows my mind that she is not willing to take into consideration your solution to the problem. Eek! Good luck with that!

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Thank you, I totally agree with everything you said.

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Posted by mrsh2b

Personally, I would not be diplomatic at all about this. I would tell her either show me the dress or don't be in the bridal party. And if the dress is something entirely different, I would tell her to step down. Obviously, she won't let you see it b/c she has something to hide. I think it's pretty obnoxious for her to take it upon herself to find a 'similar' dress without at least consulting you and then refuse to let you see it. AND it further blows my mind that she is not willing to take into consideration your solution to the problem. Eek! Good luck with that!

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Totally agreed, I would do the same thing.

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Posted by mrsh2b

Personally, I would not be diplomatic at all about this. I would tell her either show me the dress or don't be in the bridal party. And if the dress is something entirely different, I would tell her to step down. Obviously, she won't let you see it b/c she has something to hide. I think it's pretty obnoxious for her to take it upon herself to find a 'similar' dress without at least consulting you and then refuse to let you see it. AND it further blows my mind that she is not willing to take into consideration your solution to the problem. Eek! Good luck with that!

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I agree, there have been problems all along with her so it's not worth it anymore!!! Obviously, if she isn't getting ready with you than she doesn't really seem to be interested in being in the bridal party at all.

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Posted by Tina120206

He did call her, but she wouldn't get on the phone.,his mom did. They said they never heard of a bride asking the bridesmaids to wear the same dress!!! She said that is UNHEARD of, are you kidding me???? I only have 2 bridesmaids...I have never asked her to do anyhting for me, but buy this dress a year ago, which she did. Now, 25 days to go, she has a problem with it.

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Um, are you freaking kidding me?????? 'That's UNHEARD of'???????

Has she ever BEEN to a wedding? Or looked at wedding pics? Has she never noticed that ALL of the BMs have matching dresses??

Geesh, I can't believe your FSIL and your FMIL are being this difficult!!!!!! They're def trying to hide something. Tell your FH to tell her that if she doesn't show you the dress, and you don't approve of it, then she's not in the wedding.

Nuf said. End of story. Good luck!!

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Posted by giggles62

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Posted by mrsh2b

Personally, I would not be diplomatic at all about this. I would tell her either show me the dress or don't be in the bridal party. And if the dress is something entirely different, I would tell her to step down. Obviously, she won't let you see it b/c she has something to hide. I think it's pretty obnoxious for her to take it upon herself to find a 'similar' dress without at least consulting you and then refuse to let you see it. AND it further blows my mind that she is not willing to take into consideration your solution to the problem. Eek! Good luck with that!

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Totally agreed, I would do the same thing.

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I agree, I mean to pull this now, come on what is wrong with people.

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Posted by ik1

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Posted by giggles62

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Posted by mrsh2b

Personally, I would not be diplomatic at all about this. I would tell her either show me the dress or don't be in the bridal party. And if the dress is something entirely different, I would tell her to step down. Obviously, she won't let you see it b/c she has something to hide. I think it's pretty obnoxious for her to take it upon herself to find a 'similar' dress without at least consulting you and then refuse to let you see it. AND it further blows my mind that she is not willing to take into consideration your solution to the problem. Eek! Good luck with that!

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Totally agreed, I would do the same thing.

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I agree, I mean to pull this now, come on what is wrong with people.

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x

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Posted by mrsh2b

Personally, I would not be diplomatic at all about this. I would tell her either show me the dress or don't be in the bridal party. And if the dress is something entirely different, I would tell her to step down. Obviously, she won't let you see it b/c she has something to hide. I think it's pretty obnoxious for her to take it upon herself to find a 'similar' dress without at least consulting you and then refuse to let you see it. AND it further blows my mind that she is not willing to take into consideration your solution to the problem. Eek! Good luck with that!

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I agree 100%!!!!!

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Posted by Tina120206

x

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ETA: Thanks ladies. Decision made. I am the bride...I win!