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NEED HELP!!! With a BM email...

LuvMyAlfonse Posted:

NEED HELP!!! With a BM email...

These are all my good friends, my bridesmaids, can I send them this email?

Hi girls,

I feel so weird sending out this email, is this normal? I figure I have something to tell everyone so why not kill 5 birds with one stone?

Sooooooooo, was wondering what everyone is doing for hair and make-up? Would you want to have it professionally done? Either way, I want you girls to get ready with me so I can boss you around and you can fan me and feed me grapes and mimosas or heinkens (because I'm a classy bride).

I kid, I kid. I AM a classy bride but I won't boss you around and make you do things for me. So prices I'm getting for hair and make-up are freaking ridiculous so far! It's coming out to about $75 for MAKE-UP (you don't want to know how much bride costs) and around $125 for HAIR. So if you want to do it yourself, feel free.

Now the tricky part. Please let me know if you want to get hair and make-up professionally done. If you do want to, please let me know, that way I can find someone reasonable (so I can say 'I have x amount of girls, what you can you do for me?'). Please let me know what you'd be willing to spend. Again, I don't care if you want to wear your hair in cornrows or dreadlocks or a mullet and you want to do it yourself and wear The Crow eye make-up. Whatever you feel comfortable in. This is not me making you do anything.

Now for the taboo part. You are all my bridesmaids you've known me a long time and you know I'm frank, so I'm going to be frank here. I plan on getting bridesmaid gifts for you ladies but I can't afford a gift AND hair/make-up. So let me know if you'd rather me pay for hair/make-up.

And then I'd have a conclusion....
debismom Posted:

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Jenn, I absolutely love it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You're funny, and honest without being pushy. Great job!!!! Mary MOB

AndRecKy Posted:

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awww, i think its fine....you are being up front but not pushy sounding....i like the email

Snowflake08 Posted:

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i think it is perfect Jen

LuvMyAlfonse Posted:

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Thanks girls!

And thanks Mary for the enthusiasm!!!

lindaronwedding Posted:

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I love it...not pushy at all, very lighthearted and there shouldn't be any questions. I also think that's a great idea that you are offering the option of that as their gift instead if they choose, great idea! You never know, too, one of your girls may have a friend or know someone who will do it for less money. My FSILs had their hair and makeup done for a wedding for a great price by a friend of their cousin and since I'm a soon-to-be-'cousin' she gave me that price for my wedding, too.

siffleuse319 Posted:

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I didn't read your email, but I think that if you need to ask the forum...then you probably already know your answer. OK....I'm going back to read it now.....Always go with your gut.

MAY24BRIDE Posted:

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i think it sounds great.....i totally should have done something like that with my girls!

missliss Posted:

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perfect.
MikeandJess Posted:

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I think it's great jen

debismom Posted:

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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

Thanks girls!

And thanks Mary for the enthusiasm!!!




Thank you, sweetie!!!!!! Mary MOB
dancinmyazoff Posted:

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That is worded perfectly...great job!

yelley77 Posted:

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Jenn,

i think it's perferct!!! you are so funny...
GinaBambina08 Posted:

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I think this could definitely work, lol!
RKellner Posted:

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I think its perfect!

Belongs2DanBuckley Posted:

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Dude honestly, they're your BM...they know who its coming from and I think it conveys the message perfectly. I would send it.

BoxOfRocks Posted:

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I don't know if you've sent this out already, but I think you should tighten it. I understand you're in a tough spot and your message makes your situation clear and that you're flexible with the BM looks.

You know your BMs best, but things like tone of voice, body language, etc. are not apparent in e-mail. I suggest getting rid of the joke parts. Don't send it out in a group e-mail. Money is a delicate matter; send it out separately to each BM.

It's a letter with good bones. Good luck!
AMGBride2008 Posted:

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I think it's perfect Jenn.... very you and very to the point.

DCLM726 Posted:

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I like it!

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