Need help with FH's Birthday Tomorrow

Ugh. Tomorrow is FH's b-day and I don't have a present and I don't have a plan. I have been asking him since Xmas what he wants as a present and what he wants to do and he shrugs his shoulders and tells me he doesn't know. I wanted to buy him some nice work clothes because he has a new boss who wants everyone to dress up more (no more polo shirts), but he is trying to lose weight and doesn't want new clothes until then.

And when I asked him where he wanted to go for dinner, he said he didn't know.

I don't want to be mean and not get him anything or take him anywhere, but I also don't want to get him things or plan something he doesn't want.

Help! What do I do with him?????

Dont you hate that.. Jim does that to me too.

If you know a resturant he likes go for that.. book a reservation if you can.

I usually get Jim with his stomach..

Bloomings has some GREAT truffles!! If not that then some treat he likes?

If you want to stay home, think about making a dinner really done up at home. I think for Jim's bday this year I'll be making Lobster tails with asparagus and linquini (w/garlic butter and a few mussels).

Good Luck!

Yeah, you might have to grab the bull by its horns. My DH's bday was this past Wed and I had the same situation- he didn't want anything, do anything, etc. and to top it off we were staying at my SIL's house b/c we had wood floors installed this week. Anyway, I decided that we would celebrate his bday Sat instead (tomorrow) and made dinner rezzies and will probably bake him a cake. Luckily, while I was xmas shopping I picked up a couple of things for his bday also.

I think you should go shopping with him tomorrow- even though he's losing weight maybe you could get him a couple of nice 'in-between' things to wear.

Dh and I never ask each other what we want for B-days or Xmas. What we usually do is pay attention and listen to each other. Then we are pleasantly surprised.

I.e in conversation he will say I really like that xxxxx or I have been meaning to try this place.

I know if it were me, I would be annoyed if FH were asking me what I want- if that is the case I could plan my own darn B-day.

I hope that did not sound too harsh.

I know I shouldn't have to ask what he wants, but Christmas just past and I kind of wanted to know if there was anything he wanted that he hadn't gotten.

As far as dinner, I will chose a place. I asked him because FH has a way of being like my dad and once something is planned, he tells you that he doesn't REALLY want to do it. I don't want to plan for something he won't enjoy (even if you usually enjoy something, there is always the chance that you won't be in the mood for it when it is planned)

No, it wasn't harsh, it was honest to say that I should pay attention and I do, but this one is tough because Xmas just passed and a lot of things were purchased