Need help with MOH

I've been a lurker but have never posted until now. I'm having some major problems with my MOH. She was a total bridezilla when she was going through her wedding plans, but I never gave her any grief and just took everything she dumped on me. Her wedding is over and now I'm in the throws of planning my own wedding and she is no where to be found. She never returns phone calls, or when she does it's generally a week or so after I've called. I have another friend who has done everything with me - from seeing bands to choosing BM dresses. In many ways she is more of a MOH than my current MOH. I'd speak to my MOH about this if she ever called me. I'm so frustrated and am feeling totally used.

Any suggestions as to how to handle this? I know I need to talk to her, but seeing as she never has time for me I don't know how to go about making that happen.

i am new so welcome to you!
Um, about the Maid of Honor problem i say send her an email or leave her a voicemail telling her hey if you cant be around for me i am going to have to find a new MOH b/c you have certain roles and i fulfilled them in your wedding and right now i need you and you are never around....is that good?