FH and I picked out invites that we both like (dfinally); however, they have a monogram on the top of them. I was told and I believe that the monogram should be MY last name, not his. You shouldn't use the married last name until after you get married. He refuses to use my last name and I refuse to use his.....we are going to see if they can put the '&' symbol on it instead...BUT, just for my own peace of mind...who is right?? me or him???
smara
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Im not sure who is right.. but I thought it was his last name. Thats what I used for our invites - oopsie. I dont know anything about ettiquette nor do I really follow the rules anyway, but now I am curious to know if I did it wrong -lOL
cindyandkevin
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I'm not too sure on this one. They say you shouldn't use his monogram until after you're married, but I've never heard of using your monogram instead. I don't think either of you are right!! But those who did put a monogram on their invitations, I think they used his, so your FH would be right, sorry! But I could be wrong too!!
itslaurie.
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I found this on an etiquette site:
While it?s becoming more common to see the married monogram on a wedding invitation, it is not really proper. Generally, a wedding monogram with your married last name initial is used after the wedding for thank you notes.
Monogrammed wedding invitations use either the bride's initials or the first initials of the couple.
itslaurie.
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another C&P:
Monograms personalize an invitation, and add classic elegance to your invitation. They can also appear on informal cards and thank you cards. If you select a monogram here is the proper sequence MyGatsby.com adheres to: the woman's first initial from her first name appears first, the first letter of the man's last name is the middle initial (sometimes in a larger type style), and the first letter of the man's first name appears last.
