Need Help/Advice! Can't Stand the Drama & Tension!

Original post by Jamie&MarkSept.'05

Aug 05, 2005 10:43 AM

I am so upset/angry right now!

My FSIL and I do not get along...she has only been on the scene for about 3 years and FH and I have been together almost 6...she and I just don't get along...I try to be civil and I have tried to include her, but she just doesn't reciprocate. (She recently had a baby and I was not invited to the shower. She was invited to my bridal shower and did not attend.)

So....FH's parents included FSIL's parents on our guest list. We had to make cuts and we cut FSIL's parents. I have only met FSIL's parents 3 times and they live in another state so we do not see them at family functions.

FSIL is having a FIT because her parents are not invited....I am standing my ground....this girl does nothing for me, has no interest in my life, and has rejected all my attempts to be friends with her...

Am I wrong here? We had to cut extended family of mine so we could have enough people there....I don't even know her parents!!!! HELP!!!

jes81276 Posted: Aug 05, 2005 12:33 PM

Re: Need Help/Advice! Can't Stand the Drama & Tension!

I don't think you are wrong at all - first of all, if you have only met them 3 times, then why would you invite them anyway? Second of all, in the way you described her she seems like the type of person that just likes to have 'issues', so if it wansn't this then I am sure it would be something else. Definitely stand your ground!

curliegirl Posted: Aug 05, 2005 12:43 PM

Re: Need Help/Advice! Can't Stand the Drama & Tension!

My FMIL has so many people on her list, basically the family that you never see, except for funerals and weddings. It took a while, but FH finally realized that he had to put his own friends on the b-list, (which we will never get to), just to accommodate his mother's list!!

FH called her and told her some of them are getting the boot, and she freaked out, but we are standing our ground, and so should you!