My fiancee's brother and sister-in-law hate me. They have since they met me but they have no valid reason as to why. The sister-in-law says 'they had a wonderful relationship until you came into the picture.' I feel terrible b/c I know how important my FH's brother is to him. His father passed away several years ago and his mother is not well. I have tried everything to get a long with these two and they don't even acknowledge my existance. We have been dating for 2 years and are getting married in 10 months. Friday was my FH's birthday. When I showed up at his mother's house to go out to dinner for his b-day, his brother said to me, 'what are you doing here?' Than he continued to say to my FH 'I thought only the family was going out.' Who says that????? I don't know what to do anymore. I am at a loss. How can you have a happy marriage when your FH's family own brother and his wife hate you? Any advice??????
johnsae
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That is terrible. I don't have any advice, but I know how you feel....I've always felt like FH's family likes his ex-girlfriend a lot more than they like me. Although they don't say things like 'what are you doing here' to me, they do make me feel uncomfortable sometimes.
Hang in there - there aren't so many jokes out there about in-law's for no reason....many people have issues. Things may never get better, but just know that you're not the only one....feel better!
jilmadison
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You should talk to your FH about this. Even if they don't care for you they should at least try br nice for his sake. They aren't showing either of you any respect.
amyandbill
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I'm sorry that his brother and sil make you feel this way. You never know what people's motives are behind their rudeness (could be jealousy or misplaced anger). Family is tricky but you are going to be his wife and they are going to have to accept that. I would just keep on keeping the peace, if it gets out of control or just to hard for you, have fh talk to his brother.
nferrandi
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Maybe the four of you need to sit down and really get to the bottom of this. Ask them why they have such bad feelings towars you. Did you do something to offend them that you're not even aware of? Point out that whether they like it or not, you will all be family soon and for the sake of everyone, some kind of effort needs to be made to keep the peace.
N.Y.bride
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That is terrible Sounds like the are very jealous and I think your FH should talk to them.
