I'm due 8/25 and my DH's best friend is getting married on 9/30 here on LI. No problem right? Well, the guys want to go to Cancun for the Bachelor party and all during the planning my DH told them...'my wife is due 8/25 so remember that when choosing a date.' They were supposed to go in May, then it got changed to June and now they want to finalize the plans for July 28 (thursday) thru July 31 (sunday). My DH is not sure what to do...
Here is where I need your opionon. Is that too close to my due date? or do you think that since it's only for 4 days it'll be fine? I'm not sure what to tell him and he feels bad....what do you think? This is our 1st baby.
Niecey
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I would tell him to go personally since you would have to go really early but then again you never know. I started having contractions and false labor around 33 weeks - my OB thought I was having the baby for real once. DH's friends wanted to plan a ski trp a month and a half before I was due (and another guys wife was due a day after me) and neither guy would go.....even though the wifes told them too.
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I think it really depends on your comfort level. Most likely if you have had no complications thus far, you will probably have an uneventful weekend while he is gone.
What ahout scheduling a doctors appointment right before he leaves to make sure you are not dialated, etx...explaining to the doctor why you want to be checked thoroughly. Although that is no guarentee that nothing will happen, it will probably be a good indicator.
IrishTracy
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I would let him go. It seems early enough to be safe!
jcndd
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Can he order the ticket as it gets closer? That way you'll know more about how you're progressing...but, I think you'll be fine - everyone keeps telling me you never go early w/ your first
JimmysBride
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I would tell him to go, I think it's early enough, and it's only 4 days so it seems safe enough.
sassy2611
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I agree i think it is far enough before your due date you should be fine.
070502
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I woudln't want him too. Dh had a *business* trip to Georgia when I was 28 weeks and I started having contractions with no family around I had to drive myself to L&D and was nervous because there was no way he could come back early and they had no clue what caused it so it was just scary. In the long run he felt horrible for not being there.
Now if your husband is able to jump on a flight back to NY then I would say no problem my husband couldn't (which is pretty sad because he's a pilot! lol)
Now Dh had to go on this trip but if he was in Cancun I don't know how I would have felt. Will you be able to reach him if you need too?
I think it stinks his friends can't get there act together sooner and plan it.
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I think it's early enough for him to go.
iffer042373
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I think its early enough for him to go my FH had gone a few places while I was prego. If you haven't had any complications then I would say that everything will be fine. Its for a short period of time. i dont' see any harm in it at all
michele31
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Scott stopped traveling 8 weeks before my due date. IMO it is not worth the chance. This is not a family emergency. It is a boy's weekend. i guess he needs to make the final call though.
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Life as he knows it will be over once the baby comes....(not in a bad way, in a good way!) - I say he should go. 1st babies are rarely early (but of course that does happen!) -
Jenn524
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If you're not worried about possibly wasting money and having to cancel I would say he should book it. It is close but it is uncommon to go more than 3 weeks early. Of course it's possible, but not likely. I take it there's no way of them changing the date and going a little earlier?
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I wanted to thank everyone for their opinions...it's still up in the air...my DH is going to ask them to make it 2 weeks earlier. I feel guilty about the whole thing, but I don't have any family in NY. He says he'll do whatever I want, but if he doesnt go, then I'll feel bad. This whole thing stinks!!
I know that it is rare that I will give birth that early, but there is always a possibility...
I'm just afraid to have to go through anything alone. Besides that I will be terribly upset if he misses the birth of his child because of a bachelor party.
