Need opinion..Am I wrong..Long

Ok-Some background: I live in my moms 2 family house, upstairs with FH, my brother and SIL live downstairs, my mom lives in Suffolk with her boyfriend, small apt. FMIL lives about 2 minutes from us, alone in a beautiful house and backyard.

I decided to get ready at FMIL house. Last WEEK, my mom tells me she wants me to get dressed in my apt, along with my 3 bms, my mom, the hairdresser.

My mom says some people who don't have to be upstairs with me can be downstairs at my brothers. My brother is a GM. My other brother and his wife from OOT will be staying with this brother and he is also a GM. So thats 4 people getting ready downstairs.

I told her that I would feel more comfortable getting ready at FMIL house, I want to take my formal pics with my parents and BM's before the ceremony.

She says I am WRONG, WRONG, WRONG.
Then she says, well I guess its all about you then.

I was upset when I got off the phone with her b/c I know she is upset, but I feel that she should understand.

She was going to come to FMIL house as early as she wants so she can spend the morning with me.

Am I wrong? Now she is mad at me I think, she basically hung up the phone on me last night. I don't plan on changing my mind b/c I don't think she is being fair..but what do you think.

Sorry so long.

I tend to agree here. Maybe she wanted to spend a little time with just you & your brother that day. But she should not have said, wll it's all about you...uh yeah, it is!!


Maybe a neutral place like a hotel would be better, and then FMIL can meet with you for pics?

I understand that, but my 3 BM's are going to be there too. And we are all getting our hair done by the same person, so we really won't be alone and honestly if she does want some 'alone time' being at FMIL house would be better b/c there is more room for us to get away from other people.

ETA: Shes known that I was getting ready at FMIL since February. Just last week she decides to tell me this.
FH plans on getting ready at our apt with his BM and my brothers will be right downstairs

I think you should let her think about it a little bit and then try talking to her again - maybe ask her why she feels the way she does. Maybe there is something you dont know? Hey if you want, Im getting married the same day, you can get ready at my house (ha ha)

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Posted by Stacey04

I understand that, but my 3 BM's are going to be there too. And we are all getting our hair done by the same person, so we really won't be alone and honestly if she does want some 'alone time' being at FMIL house would be better b/c there is more room for us to get away from other people.

ETA: Shes known that I was getting ready at FMIL since February. Just last week she decides to tell me this.
FH plans on getting ready at our apt with his BM and my brothers will be right downstairs

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Maybe she is just having a hard time b/c it is getting so close. The best thing you can do is let it cool off (b/c from your post she sounds steamed) and talk about it again.

About a month before my wedding...my parents and I had a lot of fights......about seemingly silly things.
I think she's realizing that her little girl is growing up and she's trying to hold on in any way possible....but it's coming out the wrong way.
I think you two need to work something out the morning of the wedding, so that both of you can be happy