Need opinions

Awhite80 Posted: Apr 19, 2005 09:07 PM

Need opinions

I don't know if I am over reacting but I feel a little hurt...I had asked some of my friends/family to be BMs back in January. Two weeks ago I started making my own 'will you be my BM cards' I could have bought them, but I decided to make it a bit more special not only making them myself but also inserting a special note to each individual person. It took me about a week and a half to make them because I work 6 days a week. I sent them out about a week ago. I called my Best friend today and made small chit-chat with her and then I asked her if she received it and she said kind of abruptly, 'yeah I got it, did you think I would have said no' I kind of didn't know how to respond to that question - I guess I was a little hurt. I am not expecting trumpets playing by her because I am getting married, but I just feel she has no interest in my wedding or even being a BM.

Sorry so long. Just want to know if I am just over reacting.

Kris516 Posted: Apr 19, 2005 09:15 PM

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No, I don't think you're over reacting at all. You should have gotten a phone call from someone to thank you for the thoughtfulness. Your BF especially should be so happy for you. If she is single, chalk it up to jealousy. Enjoy your engagement!

psf80 Posted: Apr 19, 2005 09:20 PM

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When I received a heart felt card from my college roomate asking me to be her bm, I called her right away because (1) I was excited and (2) the message in the card was so nice and heartfelt. And so, I don't think you're overreacting at all. Calling you as soon as she got it, would have been the expected reaction. But bear in mind that people react differently to things. It's taken me a long time to realize that not everyone reacts to things the way I do. Don't let this get to you or bring you down!

shellnroc Posted: Apr 19, 2005 10:21 PM

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I totally do not think you are overreacting. You should of received a phone call from everyone you sent a card too. I agree with the above post if you BF is single she is probably jealous. Don't let this get you down. Enjoy your engagement!

cindyandkevin Posted: Apr 20, 2005 09:49 AM

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Aw, people stink when they ruin nice things like that! You did such a sweet thing by making it personalized. I would've def called you asap, but there's a couple of things that might've happened. Maybe she was hurt that you thought there was a possibility she'd say no, or maybe she was just really busy and didn't get a chance to call. She could've had a bad day and took it out on you or maybe she just came across the wrong way. I'm just trying to shed some new light on what the possibilities could be. But if she is jealous and rude to you again, then you absolutely have every right to be upset. Just remember, no one will be as happy and excited as you are, it's tough sometimes to realize that from up here on Cloud 9 . Def try to work it out!!!

Kiddo115 Posted: Apr 20, 2005 09:52 AM

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You aren't overreacting at all! I also took the time to create special cards asking my closest to be a part of our wedding... each one was made specific to them and our relationship.
Thank goodness, they all were super excited about getting them....I think I too would have been crushed if I received the reaction you got... Maybe she is just jealous, or maybe you just caught her on a bad day. I'm sure she's really excited for you.

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Apr 20, 2005 10:00 AM

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You said you had already asked people about being your BM's, was she one of them? Maybe she thought by sending her the card you were trying to 'remind' her by sending a card, and she was insulted or hurt that you might think she woudn't remember something like that.
Or maybe she was having a bad day.
Or maybe she is jealous, like the other girls said.
Everyone reacts differently to different things. When I got engaged, I called my friends just to tell them my news, and one girl that I have known since 5th grade reacted with the statement 'isn't it a little soon?' I was really hurt by that, obviously she wasn't even excited for me. I don't know what the reason was, and I haven't heard from here since (that was in december). So we are not freinds anymore..
That was just a story to tell you about people reacting strangely.. I am sure your friend is very happy for you, you probably just caught her at a bad time.

Kerrycec Posted: Apr 20, 2005 10:21 AM

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some people are like that. I have a BM who would say the same thing but others were sooo happy

OctBride05 Posted: Apr 20, 2005 10:26 AM

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I don't think you are over re-acting at all. she should have called you when got the card. I would feel the same way, like she didnt care and isn't even interested in being a bridesmaid.

Riss44 Posted: Apr 20, 2005 05:53 PM

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You aren't over reacting at all. In all decency your future Bridesmaids should've called you to state whether or not they wanted to be in your wedding and my goodness they should be greatful. That's a big honor to be in someones wedding. I would be hurt as well!!

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