FH is having 2 B-Parties and wants to invite a few of his 'buddies' that we are not inviting to the wedding to his local (in AC) B-party. I think its rude, he thinks its totally fine and they are guys and just want an excuse to get f-ed up.
One guy is his cousins friend, but they play cards together every week. The other 3 are friends of his brothers, and were invited to his brothers wedding, and his sisters wedding a year later... (we prob should be inviting them to ours, but I hate them)
Am I wrong here? Is it different with dudes?
MrsC2010
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its funny bc FH was invited to Vegas last year for a bachelor party for a fraternity brother....but he wasnt even invited to the wedding. I found it really strange but FH didnt....he said the kid had to keep the wedding list small but still wanted all the guys to come party for his bachelor party. I guess its just different with guys bc I woulda felt funny doing that.
SoontobeMrs.Brown
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I agree with you. I think anyone who's invited to the wedding events, should be invited to the actual wedding.
latinaj
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boys are weird......
fh has 19 guys going to his 'vegas bparty' .... ummm i dont even know 2 of then and neither does he... they're his friends' friends.... fh doesnt seem to care and obv theyre' not invited to the wedding
Future Mrs H
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I just read something about this in AM New York this morning. They had an article about wedding etiquette They said not to invite people to e-parties, showers and bach parties that arent going to be invited to the wedding
FutureLW
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I think it's different w/ guys. FH actually brought this up to me the other day. He asked if it was weird if he invited a guy we aren't inviting to our wedding (he's more of a friend of a friend). I told him to go ahead...I didn't think it was that weird.
JayBee216
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guys are weirdos!!
i wouldn't worry too much about it - I'm sure they aren't offended that they aren't invited to your wedding, since it seems like they are satellite friends anyway.
runnerbride1023
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Oy -- i guess its totally normal then. They are his friends, so I'm letting him do his thing, but i know if it was me, I'd be so offended.
AdriandSteve
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Imo I think it's different with bparties. It's not as formal as a shower so I think it's ok to invite some people who your not inviting to the wedding. I'm inviting a bunch of girls for the DJ who i'm not inviting to the wedding. They don't care... they'll use any excuse to go out and party.
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Posted by AdriandSteve
Imo I think it's different with bparties. It's not as formal as a shower so I think it's ok to invite some people who your not inviting to the wedding. I'm inviting a bunch of girls for the DJ who i'm not inviting to the wedding. They don't care... they'll use any excuse to go out and party.
same here... ive been to bparties where i wasnt invited to the wedding... and ive been to weddings where i wasnt invited to the bparties... i have quite a few people invited to my bparty that arent invited to the wedding...
Jna2010
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if those guys are ok with only going to the bparty and not the wedding, then go for it, but they probably dont know thyere not invited to the wedding right? that may turn into some drama
MR1223
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my FH actually went to a bach party last weekend for a guy he plays hockey with... and we're not invited to the wedding lol. and this guy isn't invited to our wedding and he's going to my FH's bach party this weekend. i think its very different with guys cause i was so confused by why they're going to each other's bach parties, yet neither are invited to the weddings but my FH said it's not a big deal and it doesnt matter to guys. they're just going to have fun - don't stress about it!
mzmahagony
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You are not wrong but neither is your FH. Men think differently and they would not mind 1 bit if they were invited to the wedding.
GR2010
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I have come to the conclusion that guys are strange and don't care about our silly wedding rules. I think it's weird, FH wouldn't care. I don't think FH would care if I was invited to a wedding without him but i would be offended... stuff like that. I guess to guys it is just a reason to go out and drink.
