Need opinions-- Especially from anyone who is Jewish
OK as some of you may remember my Grandmother died a few months before my wedding. We are fast approaching the anniversary of her death. To be honest since she was the last practicing Jew in my family I didn't think that we would have the unveiling but we are. Here lies the problem.
Please bear with me this might be long.
My Grandmother and my Mother (also my Mother and her brother) had a HUGE falling out about a year before my Grandmothers death. They still were not speaking at the time of my Grandmothers death. I forced my Mother to go to her mother's funeral because I thought she might regret it. My mother, though she is incredible, one of her biggest flaws is that she is probably the most stubborn person that I have ever met and cannot let things die for the sake of peace. Well anyway she made everyone uncomfortable at the funeral and did not talk to her only brother the whole time. Needless to say because of this my uncle (my ONLY immediate family left on this side) did not come to my wedding. My Aunt just E-mailed me to see if I want to come to the unveiling and what date is good for me. My mother heard from a cousin that the date is already set.
I am going to be in Florida during Feb break (where my Grandmother is buried) but all the way North and very far. So that means that I would have to
(a) cancel our trip (probably the only one we will take this year) and see if they can schedule the unveiling for the week that I am on break
(b) take several days off from school and pay for air fare again and miss DH's birthday
(c) no go
My mother thinks that I just shouldn't go. I feel awful about not going. I also feel awful about asking Frankie to cancel our trip since he is excited to take me to Disney for the first time and of course DMIL is anxiously awaiting us to come visit her! I also feel awful to miss DH's birthday? What do I? My mother is not going and I think that she should. She said an unveiling is nothing. To me it is important and shows the respect that my Grandmother deserves. The unveiling must take place before March 4th.
I am so confused. I feel awful all around. What do you think I should do?
Please bear with me this might be long.
My Grandmother and my Mother (also my Mother and her brother) had a HUGE falling out about a year before my Grandmothers death. They still were not speaking at the time of my Grandmothers death. I forced my Mother to go to her mother's funeral because I thought she might regret it. My mother, though she is incredible, one of her biggest flaws is that she is probably the most stubborn person that I have ever met and cannot let things die for the sake of peace. Well anyway she made everyone uncomfortable at the funeral and did not talk to her only brother the whole time. Needless to say because of this my uncle (my ONLY immediate family left on this side) did not come to my wedding. My Aunt just E-mailed me to see if I want to come to the unveiling and what date is good for me. My mother heard from a cousin that the date is already set.
I am going to be in Florida during Feb break (where my Grandmother is buried) but all the way North and very far. So that means that I would have to
(a) cancel our trip (probably the only one we will take this year) and see if they can schedule the unveiling for the week that I am on break
(b) take several days off from school and pay for air fare again and miss DH's birthday
(c) no go
My mother thinks that I just shouldn't go. I feel awful about not going. I also feel awful about asking Frankie to cancel our trip since he is excited to take me to Disney for the first time and of course DMIL is anxiously awaiting us to come visit her! I also feel awful to miss DH's birthday? What do I? My mother is not going and I think that she should. She said an unveiling is nothing. To me it is important and shows the respect that my Grandmother deserves. The unveiling must take place before March 4th.
I am so confused. I feel awful all around. What do you think I should do?
