Ok, so my MOH is the wife of FH's BM. She has been saying for months that she is leaving him. And like 3 weeks ago, she told me she is leaving in the beginning of Dec. She is taking the baby, who is not even 3 yet, and moving to NJ. Unfortunately, FH has mentioned to me that if it ever came down to it, if it got really bad where they could not be in the same room together, then he will have to talk to her and basically tell her “he is my brother, and he needs to be there. We can’t have any problems that day. It’s not that I don’t like you, but I don’t need the drama on that day.” (He is going to be the bad guy. Thank god cause I wouldn’t want to).
In the last couple of days, it has gotten REALLY bad. And I am scared that if its like this right now, what is going to happen. We are not saying anything yet. But, FH and I were talking about if he had to come to the point of asking her to step down, what happens to her dress? Since he is asking her to step down and she isn't leaving on her own.
So, now my question is to you wonderful ladies…Do I reimburse her for the dress? If so, my mom gave them $100 to put towards their dress as their gift. If I give her the money back, do I ask for that back? FH was asking me, and I was like I don’t know…but I will ask LIW lol.
It really s u c k s to be in this situation for all of them. It is getting really bad and all I am worried about is that little baby girl.
vicky1125
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honestly i would give her back whatever she put towards the dress and wouldn't ask for the $100 from your mother. i would just take the loss. JMO.
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I would ask her to step down and if she mentions anything about the gown then offer to reimburse her for what she paid but make her give you the dress because now you're paying for it. Give her the money minus the $100 your mom paid and take the dress.....
you could always add another girl in the BP and she can use the dress?? Just an idea
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I would just give her back what she put towards the dress , take the loss or see if there is a way to have someone or the bridal salon buy the dress from you to use as a sample.
hope all goes well
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I would give her the money back minus the 100 that your mom put towards the dress.
Hope it all works out !
meara
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ITA w/ everyone who said to reimburse her the money minus the 100 your mom put towards it - b/c the money was for the dress - not just a gift.
sorry you are going through this -
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Posted by vicky1125
honestly i would give her back whatever she put towards the dress and wouldn't ask for the $100 from your mother. i would just take the loss. JMO.
I agree completely
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Posted by ChrissyV729
I would give her the money back minus the 100 that your mom put towards the dress.
Hope it all works out !
ITA! Good luck!
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IMO, I would give her the money back for the dress and then get the dress from her .. .maybe another BM can use it? or her replacement and they can give you the money for it? But I would def give her the money back for it
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Posted by ChrissyV729
I would give her the money back minus the 100 that your mom put towards the dress.
Hope it all works out !
i agree!!!!!
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that is a sticky situation. if i were you i would tell her she is out. also pay her what ever you owe her for the dress, minus the $100 your mom paid out. i think that is fair you only paying her what she paid. is someone else going to be wearing the dress? then you get the dress, and she gets what she paid. and the 100 just went towards the dress. does that make sense? good luck
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Posted by vicky1125
honestly i would give her back whatever she put towards the dress and wouldn't ask for the $100 from your mother. i would just take the loss. JMO.
I agree.
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Yea that's what I thought...I just want to be fair.
FH and I were trying to think of anyone that we knew that could fill in. but, I don't think there is anyone i know that would.
I am just sooo stressed out. Coming from a friend's point of view, it's so sad to see them go throw this. I have never seen this side of them come out.
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Posted by Nuvia97
I would just give her back what she put towards the dress , take the loss or see if there is a way to have someone or the bridal salon buy the dress from you to use as a sample.
