I am working on the wording for the invite and the response card right now and I am torn on what to do with the RSVP. I am having a small wedding (100 people) and I am being very strict with the guest list because we must keep it at that number. That being said, I am Hispanic and my family has not had many weddings in the past few years, so some of them still have this idea that it’s okay to invite everyone (I experienced this at my Quinciañera, “Sweet 15). So I am not sure that I can use the traditional response card wording because I have a feeling that some will assume they can bring a guest, even if I don’t put it). I have been of thinking doing this:
Please reply before the 20th of April
Name(s) _______________________
Number invited__________ (I would put the number here)
Number attending ________
I know is not etiquette, but I think that at this point I am less concerned with etiquette then not going over my limit. I don’t want it to look rude or anything, which is why I am going back and forth. What do you guys think?
twein28
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we are wedding date twins!!! I guess I am not too ahead of the times looking at invites yet! lol.
twein28
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wouldnt the invitiation address who is invited? LIke if you are only inviting Mr and Mrs and not the kids, wouldnt they know that once they get the inviitation? Not sure if you need to write the line that says number invited, etc.
Lsorrent
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Some people put their response saying:
___ of _(2)__ attending
So you leave the first one blank and then fill in the second one with how many guests are invited.
Lady12
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Posted by twein28
wouldnt the invitiation address who is invited? LIke if you are only inviting Mr and Mrs and not the kids, wouldnt they know that once they get the inviitation? Not sure if you need to write the line that says number invited, etc.
Ideally, that is how its suppose to work, but some people I know ( I used to be guilty of this) assume that when you invite the parents, their kids are invited (who may no longer live with them and have girlfriends... I am exagerating, I know only a few would do this...but I just dont want any surprises or having to call people back saying that they have to cut the number...
Lady12
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Posted by Lsorrent
Some people put their response saying:
___ of _(2)__ attending
So you leave the first one blank and then fill in the second one with how many guests are invited.
I have never seen it, but I like this idea...
Lady12
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Posted by twein28
we are wedding date twins!!! I guess I am not too ahead of the times looking at invites yet! lol.
date twin!
I happen to see this invite that I liked and decided to get it now. I feel like when Janaury comes around, things will really start getting crazy for me! Plus, the guest list has become one of my biggest stress in this weddingl!
little j
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Posted by Lsorrent
Some people put their response saying:
___ of _(2)__ attending
So you leave the first one blank and then fill in the second one with how many guests are invited.
I have never seen it, but I like this idea...
i would do this or
___ seats have been reserved in your honor. ___ attending
i personally dont like # invited.
Lady12
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Posted by Lady12
Posted by Lsorrent
Some people put their response saying:
___ of _(2)__ attending
So you leave the first one blank and then fill in the second one with how many guests are invited.
I have never seen it, but I like this idea...
i would do this or
___ seats have been reserved in your honor. ___ attending
i personally dont like # invited.
Thanks. I know what you mean....
RGEC47
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I have the same problem and people did this for my 15th too! So FH adn I decided to have the response cards personalized. It was only about $20 extra, but I wouuld rather pay 20 than $100's more for people adding guests. here's what we're doing..
Mr. & Mrs. Robert Smith Two seats have been reserved for you at our wedding and reception.
Yes, ___ of us will be attending ___ We are unable to attend
Good luck!
Lady12
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Posted by RGEC47
I have the same problem and people did this for my 15th too! So FH adn I decided to have the response cards personalized. It was only about $20 extra, but I wouuld rather pay 20 than $100's more for people adding guests. here's what we're doing..
Mr. & Mrs. Robert Smith Two seats have been reserved for you at our wedding and reception.
Yes, ___ of us will be attending ___ We are unable to attend
Good luck!
I never thought of that.... I will ask my invite lady if she does this... Thanks!
