Need schedule of tipping

What are you tipping everyone? DJ, Photogrpaher, Videographer, Harpist, Wedding coordinator at reception, what about the wait staff (the 17% was already included in the price) do they get more? How about the bartender? Help!!! I know it's all based on if they do a good job, but what is the standard.

nearly never do they give you back the deposit. look at it this way....next time make 101% sure ( and dont book so so far ahead)that this is want you want, before giving any money down. then again you might not get the date you want I dont hold any dates until I get a deposit.In the big picture 10%($500ish) wont look so bad. good luck!

Thanks so much for the response - really put my mind at ease! After I read your last one, I called Adrienne's and they said it should be in end of July-August. Whew! We just booked our honeymoon today (last minute!!..) and things are really starting to roll, all of a sudden! When are you getting married? Our date is November 18th, 5 years to the day of when we first kissed! Talk about Mush!