Unfortunately, my FH was laid off a couple of days ago :( We were planning on saving a lot of money from now until the wedding (this May), but due to the circumstances, we most likely won't be able to do so. I'm debating whether I should change our wedding date to May 2012 instead of 2011 but I'm concerned because we have already booked ALL of our vendors! I'm worried that our vendors will be booked on the new wedding date that we choose, and then we would have lost our deposits. Also, my grandma (who is a huge part of my life) is 92 and I'm worried if we wait another year, she won't be around to see me walk down the aisle :( What would you do?
ACD8
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that is a tough situation and very unfortunate. Before changing your date...I would look to see if there is any where you can 'cut back' on your wedding. Maybe call the vendors and order smaller packages or even cut down your invite list a bit (if possible). I hope this helps!
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Stuff like this unfortunately happens I was out of work since last October. We still were able to save money that FH put away and money I banked when I was still working. I am not saying it was easy, but we did it.
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mmmm.... Do you think u can pull it off by 2011? Do u think u will have the money? Is eh lookin for a job now?
Mmm... thats hard...
Especially bc u have everything book now...
Can they switch the date w/o chargin anything?
When it comes down to ur grandma, I wudl say make it for 2011... U never know what life may bring unfortunately...
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So sorry to hear that! What about switching it to a later date in 2011, maybe October/november?? Maybe Milleridge will adjust the price if you change the date?
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Im sorry about that. This economy stinks .
I wouldnt change the year maybe just the date? Maybe a friday night or invite less guests? Maybe FH will find something sooner than later?
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I would talk to your RH 1st see what dates they have that are cheaper and if those are doable for you guys I would call all your vendors before changing the date.
I know it's not ideal but is there a family member that could help you guys out if you come up short at the end
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Just wait a bit and see what happens. Same thing happened to me. If FH is agressive enough, I am sure he will find something. Good Luck
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It's a really tough decision. I guess the biggest question is whether or not you live at home still or if you are spending $$ every month on rent. FH & I went through the same thing last year.... we were VERY lucky he got a new job in about a month, at a HUGE paycutt, but at least he had a new job. It really was the best thing as the other job would have killed him - he was working 12 + hour days. Keep your chin up! Things will work out right.
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thanks everyone for your advice! we've decided to wait it out for a few months to see if my FH is able to get another job, and if he doesn't find a job by then, we'll seriously consider changing our date.
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what kind of work does FH do? maybe we can all keep an eye/ ear out for you guys. :)
chelle2386
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he's a packaging engineer, but we're living in chicago right now :-\ thanks though!
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i'm sorry to hear the news... it'll all work out. Stay positive
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Posted by Im getting Married
I would talk to your RH 1st see what dates they have that are cheaper and if those are doable for you guys I would call all your vendors before changing the date.
I know it's not ideal but is there a family member that could help you guys out if you come up short at the end
ITA with this. def just cut back in tons of the areas that you can.
DIY invitations DIY centerpieces - if you dont have them booked already - or just make them smaller than you had originally planned and look around for girls selling things - tons of brides on here sell things after their weddings - that's an easy way to save money.
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I would def keep 2011..packages are getting more expensive and like the other ladies stated, you dont know the future...
theres are sooo many ways to cut back (eg guest list, photography and video packages, etc)
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Honestly I would be surprised if May 2012 is already booked. However, I wouldnt wait too much longer. Most places allow you to push your event back within the same year without any penalty. What about a fall wedding? That would give you some time to addtionally save and hopefully for him to land something!
So sorry!
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i def think you should wait it out and see what happens. this economy sucks but based on all the girls getting new jobs on this site as well as some of my coworkers, i think the economy is picking up. He should def get a recruiter to help him out with the process. good luck and i'm sorry
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That's a hard decision to make. I would give it a month and in the mine time figure out the money and budget accordingly because if your grandmother really is a concern you may what can be dropped or downsized to make it work
