Need some advice about a friend (repost from NW)
I am not sure what to do about one of my friends or ex friends...
I went out with this guy during freshman year in college (7 years ago). Since then we have broken up and stayed friends, etc. Unfortunately DH doesn't like him, for a bunch of reasons, one being that he was an ex, and the only ex I have kept in touch with.
Since meeting DH 2 years ago, my friendship with the ex and his now fiance has cooled, and this past year, while we still got together for dinners and such, it happened no more often than once every few months (and we both live in NYC).
I called the ex a few days before the wedding to see if he would be able to give a ride into NYC for my best friend who came over from Canada. His reply was: 'Sure, we can give her a lift, but only on our terms', which after some discussing, there were no terms, he just meant to firmly indicate that they didn't want to give this person a ride. And of course I scrambled and found another ride.
Fastforward to the day of the wedding => the ex and his fiance were the only couple who did not give a gift in any way, not even a card. And then to make things even more fun, I have received an email from the ex, but addressed to a distribution list with no individual addresses, stating that his Palm Pilot went dead, and he needs all our addresses/phone/email info...
I still have not replied to this email, but have received a few 'mass' emails from them, inviting their friends to celebrate his fiancee's b-day and shabbat dinners.
I am really hurt, but at the same time it is not possible that every other guest have found a place to put the cards in and they didn't... And given the response I have received about giving a ride to a friend of mine, I am not sure that their friendship is still there...
What can I do. I am so hurt, having received their invite for b-day/shabbat, and part of me would like to go, but another part doesn't!!!
I went out with this guy during freshman year in college (7 years ago). Since then we have broken up and stayed friends, etc. Unfortunately DH doesn't like him, for a bunch of reasons, one being that he was an ex, and the only ex I have kept in touch with.
Since meeting DH 2 years ago, my friendship with the ex and his now fiance has cooled, and this past year, while we still got together for dinners and such, it happened no more often than once every few months (and we both live in NYC).
I called the ex a few days before the wedding to see if he would be able to give a ride into NYC for my best friend who came over from Canada. His reply was: 'Sure, we can give her a lift, but only on our terms', which after some discussing, there were no terms, he just meant to firmly indicate that they didn't want to give this person a ride. And of course I scrambled and found another ride.
Fastforward to the day of the wedding => the ex and his fiance were the only couple who did not give a gift in any way, not even a card. And then to make things even more fun, I have received an email from the ex, but addressed to a distribution list with no individual addresses, stating that his Palm Pilot went dead, and he needs all our addresses/phone/email info...
I still have not replied to this email, but have received a few 'mass' emails from them, inviting their friends to celebrate his fiancee's b-day and shabbat dinners.
I am really hurt, but at the same time it is not possible that every other guest have found a place to put the cards in and they didn't... And given the response I have received about giving a ride to a friend of mine, I am not sure that their friendship is still there...
What can I do. I am so hurt, having received their invite for b-day/shabbat, and part of me would like to go, but another part doesn't!!!
