need some advice on a shower issue...SORRY SO LONG!

Hello ladies.. sorry this is going to be long, but I need to vent and I need some advice. My wonderful matron of honor (who I've been friends with since 6th grade) has been planning my shower with the help of the other bridesmaids. I don't want to know any of the details.. I really want to be surprised. Things have been going really well... but today I found out some thigns from her. I know I am not supposed to find out, but I really feel like I am in a bad posistion. My MOH has two kids and is busy, her daughter had to ahve surgery last week (only four) and she was really busy over the fourth of July weekend-having her in-laws in from out of town. My mom tried calling MOH and then told me MOH wasn't calling her back. I proceeded to explain to my mom that she was busy with the sugery and the otu of towners... then my mom called AGAIN!! I was so embarassed (b/c she told me again!) Then I explained to her the situation again. Finally my mom told FH.. at that point I got angry b/c FH wanted to step in and fix everyting-he really didn't know the whole story. .. needless to say, FH and I got into a fight...

TODAY-my MOH told me that it was taken care of... but that my mom left her some weiord messages and said a comment to her like, you should have called me back, even if you don't have anything done. My MOH said she had a lot done and was insulted taht my mom would say that (MOH tried to contact my mom for a while prior to this incident) MOH started crying today b/c she is afraid my mom is telling people she isn't doing anything etc.. but I told her I knew that she was putting in 150%... other things are happening that I shouldn't really know about.. but MOH told me and now I am really upset and angry ... My mom keeps stepping on her toes.. basically all these people are now getting involved when she alredy had things planned.... after she said she has been tyring to get people involved for a while..

What should I do? MOH doesn't want me to even tell FH... I know I shouldn't be involved, but I am so upset with my mom....

TIA for listening, SORRY it's sooo long!

Any advice would be appreciated!!

I htink you need to sit down wiht you mom and explain to her that she hurt your MOH's feelings. Mothers get crazy when it comes to weddings and there's a good chance she didn't even realize that she was doing anything wrong

im sorry!! Dont weddings bring out the best in people??? I would definitely sit your mom down and have a chat with her... why are you so hesitant to talk with FH? I know my FH always makes me feel better when I talk to him about issues I am having with my mom... however he doesnt get involved with my mother at all... I think what you said to your MOH was great... just remind her that no matter what your mom says or does that you still love her and you know she is doing the best she can!

i hope that helps and isnt too much rambling!!

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Posted by cjb88

im sorry!! Dont weddings bring out the best in people??? I would definitely sit your mom down and have a chat with her... why are you so hesitant to talk with FH? I know my FH always makes me feel better when I talk to him about issues I am having with my mom... however he doesnt get involved with my mother at all... I think what you said to your MOH was great... just remind her that no matter what your mom says or does that you still love her and you know she is doing the best she can!

i hope that helps and isnt too much rambling!!

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Isnt that the truth!!!
I would sit down with her and talk to her and tell her your thoughts, you are the so if you arent freaking out about it then she should know that all is ok.
Good Luck!