Thank you all for listening to my vent and thanks for the feedback! I have deleted for a few reasons!!!!!!
lacey&mark
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hello. sorry you are feeling so frustrated. i don't quite see what the big issue is here. you want a saturday night wedding and thats what you are planning on, so what does it matter what family members think of it? alwyas remember that it is YOUR wedding. if cash is tight and you and your fi want to go ahead with a saturday night wedding, and you are willing to scrimp and save extra for it, then do it! many others have done so before you! of course, we all know if you have your wedding in the winter, in the afternoon or on a weekday that you will save big bucks. but if thats not what you really want, then don't 'suck it up'. do what you guys want and forget about what others think. it seems that your family members are more worried about your financial status than you and you fi are. i would only consider the afternoon wedding if saving the money is something thats very important to you. goodluck! ~lacey
Steph62406
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don't change stay with the Saturday night!
070306
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Do what works for you both...
wendyz06
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I would do what you want and not listen to others. Could you maybe postpone it a year? Not sure if that would help.
October Bliss
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I also wanted an evening wedding, but could not in any way shape or form afford a Saturday night. It was suggested to me that I choose a Sunday before a Monday holiday since that is almost like a Saturday night.
It didn't entirely work out the way I planned, as quite a few places told me it was the same price as a Saturday night, but I found quite a few that didn't look at it that way, and quoted me the regular Sunday evening price.
Ultimately, the choice is yours, and if your heart's desire says Saturday night, then don't compromise for anyone!!!
ssdbk
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You need to figure out what the savings would really be. You said that there are people paying half of what you paid, because they are having an afternoon wedding. I do not know what your package includes, what theirs includes, or whether the places are similar. I highly doubt that you could have the exact same wedding, with all the same 'extras' and save half just by moving it to an afternoon.
I'm having a Sat. night wedding and, yes, it will cost more than an afternoon wedding, but it is nowhere near double the cost----for the catering or for anything else.
You should decide what your priorities are and see if you can just cut back on areas that are less important to you.
prinses777
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Sorry to butt into the 06' board... but Personally... if you are already stressed now about money... You are going to be wayyyyyyy more stressed when it gets closer to your date not knowing if you will be able to afford your wedding or not. If you are double guessing yourself... Look at different places that give you good prices in the afternoon... and if you still don't like them and you aren't satisfied... then you know the Sat night is what you want and its going to make you happy... then that is what you have to go with.
I had a similar situation... I couldn't have an evening wedding anywhere bc the minimums are all too high for the amount of people we were having... I went and saw a few Mansion type places that I thought would look nice in the afternoon setting... But in the end I still choose the Sat night. b/c I found a Mansion that I fell in love with AND could hold us for a sat night... so it was perfect.
I totally feel you about the Friday night weddings... but Why is that not an option?? For me it wasn't an options b/c still the minimums were too high at many places.
Good luck... Please don't stress... Its your day, do what makes you happy.
BKtoLI
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Do what makes you happy!!
FH and I are not exactly rolling in dough right now and still wondering how to pay for everything, but we know in the end it will all work out.
We originally wanted a Saturday night also, but knew it would cost more and most of our family goes to sleep early anyway. (Not to mention by the time we booked a lot of the Saturday nights were taken!!) So we were left with Friday night, Sunday night and Saturday afternoon.
Like you, I also refused to have an afternoon wedding because that means we would have to get up super early to get ready, and we are not morning people at all!!! And FH was dead set against Friday because he thought why should people have to take the day off for our wedding? So Sunday night it was.
If you have the Saturday night and want to keep it and think you can pull it off financially, by all means, then do it!! You have plenty of time to save between now and then! And there are many ways of cutting costs other than changing the time or date!!
mariela2006
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do what makes you happy. dont listen to other people and thier comments. it is your day and only you and your fh can decide if any changes need to be made. Relax
july06bride
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i prefer evening weddings for the reasons most people do---however, you need to check your numbers, see exactly what the difference in price would be and see if that number is possible...if not , then go to a saturday afternoon... Why are friday evenings out of the question? How about a sun before a holiday---as someone said some places charge 'holiday' prices...I know EW Estate was , but some dont and people would have off the next day...some are even doing monday nights with tuesday being a holiday...if you are flexible with dates you will have a better chance,..how about a change in season too? winter is cheaper for obvious reasons
seta
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BKtoLI
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If it makes a difference, our wedding is ending at 10pm on a Sunday for the same reason you mentioned. Our family is from all over.
seta
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your lucky!
Kim51103
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Talk it over with ur FH....if saving money is more important...and u 2 are willing to change the time...then do it...
But if u dont mind about the tight money...and u want to save ur night wedding...then go for it...
How much will you save?? A LOT??
beautyq115
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Do what you want...its your day!
AmyMarie
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somebody on this website made a really great point about affording the wedding you want...it was somehting like 'there is never a great time to spend the money on the wedding of your dreams...whether it be now or a year from now...' I fully believe that it is once in a lifetime and honestly you two seem like responsible adults and what you are spending now won't bury you for the future. I say..proceed with the Saturday night and hope the envelopes are thick and plenty!!! lol
I am kidding, but seriously...Saturday nights are made for partying!!!
Amy
GaneshTara
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I also say to decide how important budgeting is for you and FH. If you really want to pay half the price, and your family (who is already convincing you two to change it and make it earlier) is cool with it, change it. But if you always had your heart set on the evening wedding, then don't go against your gut - you mite regret it!
