I called FMIL to invite her to go with me and my mom to look for favors for the wedding this weekend..she asked where would we be going i told her i'd be going to Jersey.. as soon as she heard jersey she said no.. ***..
I am trying to include her and she doesn't want to come..
GRRR she just made me pretty P.O.ed
Nina
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Oh Angela I'm sorry
She's just being difficult to get your attention, or maybe she wants you to beg her
Just let her be...and you have fun looking for favors....once she realizes you move on without her...she'll be asking to become part of or help out soon
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Don't sweat it.. Have fun looking for your favors and if she says anything to you about what you picked out, just tell her that you gave her the opportunity to go with you and she declined..
BklynItaliana
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it's just i want to include her but she just has no intrest...maybe it's just me
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i asked my fmil to come to the showcase at jericho terrace with me in january. i went with some bridesmaids and my mom and sisters, and she didnt want to come. i was a little hurt, but what can you do? have a good time looking for your favors!!
BklynItaliana
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i just called my mom and told her.. i got the i told you so speech..so my aunt is comming with us instead..
Love4Eva
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you asked - and she sd no - so next time you dont ask her - maybe she will understand why
BklynItaliana
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yea but the whole thing is i want her to be a part of it.. i don't want her to say down the line o well she is a b-atch b/c she didin't want me to be a part of anything
I am already hearing about how my parents house is to small to fit all the people after the ceremony.. so she wants to find another place where people could go.. it's just fustrating
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My mom is sooooooooo happy I'm getting married, but when it comes time to go shopping or run errands, she's not into it. She's a home body and likes to be home for some reason. I wouldn't take it personal. Take it from a daughter who ALWAYS tries to include her OWN mother and doesn't succeed!!
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Dont worry about it...just go ahead with Mom
Soon2BeMrsS
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One positive thing: She can't complain since she wasn't there to give her opion
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Posted by BklynItaliana
yea but the whole thing is i want her to be a part of it.. i don't want her to say down the line o well she is a b-atch b/c she didin't want me to be a part of anything
I am already hearing about how my parents house is to small to fit all the people after the ceremony.. so she wants to find another place where people could go.. it's just fustrating
have you talked to FH abt this? maybe he knows what her deal is - and why she doesnt want to go
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I sorry hun... listen look at this way.. I would be happy if I were you.. I took my FMIL shopping to get stuff for my eparty and she didnt like anything I picked out! My parents live in florida so I took her instead.. not good. Meanwhile, when my mom came up for the eparty and we went shopping together for wedding stuff.. she said anything i pick out will be wonderful.. she didn't disagree on anything. Enjoy the QUALITY time with your mom and try not to even think about it!!!
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Posted by Love4Eva
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yea but the whole thing is i want her to be a part of it.. i don't want her to say down the line o well she is a b-atch b/c she didin't want me to be a part of anything
I am already hearing about how my parents house is to small to fit all the people after the ceremony.. so she wants to find another place where people could go.. it's just fustrating
have you talked to FH abt this? maybe he knows what her deal is - and why she doesnt want to go
i did, i asked him before i asked her. when i told he she didn't want to go he got all defensive
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yea but the whole thing is i want her to be a part of it.. i don't want her to say down the line o well she is a b-atch b/c she didin't want me to be a part of anything
I am already hearing about how my parents house is to small to fit all the people after the ceremony.. so she wants to find another place where people could go.. it's just fustrating
have you talked to FH abt this? maybe he knows what her deal is - and why she doesnt want to go
i did, i asked him before i asked her. when i told he she didn't want to go he got all defensive
Ooo.. I see ... I think when the time comes for her to be involved - she will be ... just keep on asking her .. she can never say that you didnt want to involve her.
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thats what i keep telling myself.. but it's wierd.. liek the little stuff i bought for my rb and fg when i showed her she was like o thats nice( like being fake nice about it ) it makes me wonder.. what she really thinks about me
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Don't get too upset.. just look at it from an outsider's POV, you were kind enough to ask her and try to incldue her. Let her look like the bad guy in rejecting your offer.
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thats what i keep telling myself.. but it's wierd.. liek the little stuff i bought for my rb and fg when i showed her she was like o thats nice( like being fake nice about it ) it makes me wonder.. what she really thinks about me
I know it matters to us, and we want to be liked or at least approved of. But in the long run, it doesn't matter what she thinks. Its all about you and FH. I know you just want her to be a part of...but if she continues on this road...she'll regret it one day.
At least she can never say you didn't offer. All you can do is ask and put the ball in her court. Trust me..when bambinos come in the pic, and she realizes her boy really does belong to another woman...she'll get over it.
