Need to vent

OK first of all ...I know you must be very stressed out. If its going to be something you're going to look back on later in life and be upset because you got married in March rather than July than you should absolutely change the date, but remember the wedding is ONE DAY...very expensive one day but one day nevertheless...the important thing is that you'll be MARRIED!!!

I definately understand though about wanting to use the grounds and whanot...people will understand July is still very far from September. And you're eparty you can always change the day unless its already booked and the invites are out...i don't know though...its honestly your and your FH's day....it should be what YOU guys want...not based on what pressures surround you. EVERYONE will have something to say. Sometimes I feel like people want to know the daate your getting married just to know if it might be CONVENTIENT for them to attend ...so yeah good luck chicky!!! You'll figure it out...its going to be beautiful either way

I'm sorry you are in such a difficult situation. I feel that it is your day and you should get what you want. If the only reason you had picked March was b/c of the honeymoon....you would definitely be able to go in July...(if I remember correctly you are a teacher right?) There will problably be a price difference for July. July and September are are a month apart...what's the problem your FMIL is having???!!!!

Now as for your e-party...who cares about having it too close to you fbil. People are going to come to your parties regardless...so if it's 2 weeks apart...or 1 day apart...it's not on the same day.

Relax...and do what's best for you and your FH.

Good luck

I'm really sorry that you're going through this

The wedding day is yours and FH's - no one elses! So, you two have to pick a date that best suits the both of you. If the best date for the two of you is in July, then I say switch it. It's not like you're getting married the day before FBIL, you're going to be getting married two months before which is perfectly fine. Just do whatever makes you and your FH the happiest. Good luck!

Edited for spelling

In regards to being too close to FBIL parties...I don't know about anyone else...but every year the month of May is crazy for my big Italian family...every weekend it's someones communion, bridal shower, wedding, graduation. Parties and occassions are happy times...your family won't mind!!!

Don't stress