Need to vent....

So some of you know the back story about FSIL and how she has done nothing this whole process but give headache and not spend a dime as a BM.

So she has complained about money and that she can't even spend $50 on supplies to make a cake...yet all of a sudden went on a surprise HM to Hawaii on a deal. I'm sure Hawaii isn't that cheap even on a deal....but ok. I already made it clear to FH she needs to not ask me to spend a dime on her for anything. She thinks I will spend 2K on a destination wedding she wants to have in 3 years(even though she got married this year at city hall)....sorry any extra money will NOT be going to that.

Today is my birthday...not one person from his family said happy birthday...oh wait correction at 10:50pm his mom text me (so I'm sure FH said something to her after I told him not to) nor a text from his sister (and I don't want to hear about phone issues because her husband has been checking in on FB). His mom surprised me because I think we have a good relationship and are close.

Thennnnn...I read a book today that my mom put together from the shower of advice everyone wrote for me for a successful marriage...and FSIL writes......be kind to those who love you they only want the best for you. O*M*F*G are you kidding me?



Weddings do bring out the true colors. And so I will not be going above and beyond whatsoever like I used to for her. I pretty much planned her whole e-party at the swan club..and tried to help her plan her destination wedding...which did not end up happening because she was too lazy to plan it herself.

Sorry for the long rant...but just freaking annoying.

Yikes, sorry to hear that the saga w/her continues.

Happy Birthday though--I hope the rest of it was great!!

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Posted by jooney77

Yikes, sorry to hear that the saga w/her continues.

Happy Birthday though--I hope the rest of it was great!!

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It was got to spend the day with FH and mom made a yummy lobster dinner.

im sorry! this process has taught us alot about people and it sucks when its family or fil's..it sucks that we go above an beyond and get **** in return

it will get better and after the wedding you know who is worth and who isnt worth it

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Posted by rosatemp

im sorry! this process has taught us alot about people and it sucks when its family or fil's..it sucks that we go above an beyond and get **** in return

it will get better and after the wedding you know who is worth and who isnt worth it

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Yep so true. Like my mom said if people aren't happy from the beginning they aren't going to get happy in the middle out of the nowhere and I have seen that 100%. At least FH knows my feelings and agrees that how she is being is wrong....so he knows for the future not to expect crap from me when it comes to her.

Sorry .... if you ever need to vent about FSIL you can join my club!!!

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Posted by hiswifey2011

Sorry .... if you ever need to vent about FSIL you can join my club!!!

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We can vent together and practice signing our new G's.....

The thing that bothers me the most about it was we were really close and when me and FH were in our accident she really did help us alot...which is why I went above and beyond to help her with her E-party and trying to plan her destination wedding...I saw her as a new sister.

But she just couldn't get past her jealousy and selfishness to reciprocate the happiness once we were having a wedding and she wasn't...and it just snowballed.

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Posted by Jmrosa1

The thing that bothers me the most about it was we were really close and when me and FH were in our accident she really did help us alot...which is why I went above and beyond to help her with her E-party and trying to plan her destination wedding...I saw her as a new sister.

But she just couldn't get past her jealousy and selfishness to reciprocate the happiness once we were having a wedding and she wasn't...and it just snowballed.

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Same here! My SIL actually told my DH that because she didn't have a big wedding, we didn't deserve it either! Our relationship has never been the same after that!

I don't know what is wrong with these women! When I see something nice happening to someone, I am happy for them! What do I get in being a bitter selfish BIOTCH??!!! NADA!!!!!!

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Posted by hiswifey2011

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Posted by Jmrosa1

The thing that bothers me the most about it was we were really close and when me and FH were in our accident she really did help us alot...which is why I went above and beyond to help her with her E-party and trying to plan her destination wedding...I saw her as a new sister.

But she just couldn't get past her jealousy and selfishness to reciprocate the happiness once we were having a wedding and she wasn't...and it just snowballed.

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Same here! My SIL actually told my DH that because she didn't have a big wedding, we didn't deserve it either! Our relationship has never been the same after that!

I don't know what is wrong with these women! When I see something nice happening to someone, I am happy for them! What do I get in being a bitter selfish BIOTCH??!!! NADA!!!!!!

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yep exactly

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Posted by Jmrosa1

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Posted by rosatemp

im sorry! this process has taught us alot about people and it sucks when its family or fil's..it sucks that we go above an beyond and get **** in return

it will get better and after the wedding you know who is worth and who isnt worth it

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Yep so true. Like my mom said if people aren't happy from the beginning they aren't going to get happy in the middle out of the nowhere and I have seen that 100%. At least FH knows my feelings and agrees that how she is being is wrong....so he knows for the future not to expect crap from me when it comes to her.

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its so sad..but i bet when its her time she will expect you to give your 100%...i have been cleaning my fb due to this...you have no respect to give back since ive shown and done it then fu basically...

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Posted by hiswifey2011

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Posted by Jmrosa1

The thing that bothers me the most about it was we were really close and when me and FH were in our accident she really did help us alot...which is why I went above and beyond to help her with her E-party and trying to plan her destination wedding...I saw her as a new sister.

But she just couldn't get past her jealousy and selfishness to reciprocate the happiness once we were having a wedding and she wasn't...and it just snowballed.

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Same here! My SIL actually told my DH that because she didn't have a big wedding, we didn't deserve it either! Our relationship has never been the same after that!

I don't know what is wrong with these women! When I see something nice happening to someone, I am happy for them! What do I get in being a bitter selfish BIOTCH??!!! NADA!!!!!!

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wow seriously she said that...its all jealousy..noone told her not to have a big wedding...the nerve of people

Wow chica...
I am so sorry...
what a @$$^%^*%#@!!!!!!

Let her be... she is probably miserable n doesnt wanna see anyone happy!!!!....


You are an amazin person...
and i hope u had a good bday!!!

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Posted by rosatemp

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Posted by Jmrosa1

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Posted by rosatemp

im sorry! this process has taught us alot about people and it sucks when its family or fil's..it sucks that we go above an beyond and get **** in return

it will get better and after the wedding you know who is worth and who isnt worth it

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Yep so true. Like my mom said if people aren't happy from the beginning they aren't going to get happy in the middle out of the nowhere and I have seen that 100%. At least FH knows my feelings and agrees that how she is being is wrong....so he knows for the future not to expect crap from me when it comes to her.

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its so sad..but i bet when its her time she will expect you to give your 100%...i have been cleaning my fb due to this...you have no respect to give back since ive shown and done it then fu basically...

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Exactly we had a huge lonnnnggg convo about money and duties of being in a wedding...and how it was messed up that she couldn't be in the wedding because she couldn't afford it blah blah...and then at the end of the convo had the nerve to be like well start saving now for my destination wedding in 3 years...I'm like well kids will be around by then so who knows what the situation will be.

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Posted by rosatemp

im sorry! this process has taught us alot about people and it sucks when its family or fil's..it sucks that we go above an beyond and get **** in return

it will get better and after the wedding you know who is worth and who isnt worth it

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Exactly!!!! I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.

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Posted by VCanizalez

Wow chica...
I am so sorry...
what a @$$^%^*%#@!!!!!!

Let her be... she is probably miserable n doesnt wanna see anyone happy!!!!....


You are an amazin person...
and i hope u had a good bday!!!

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I did V!! Thanks so much!

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Weddings do bring out the true colors. And so I will not be going above and beyond whatsoever like I used to for her. I pretty much planned her whole e-party at the swan club..and tried to help her plan her destination wedding...which did not end up happening because she was too lazy to plan it herself.

Sorry for the long rant...but just freaking annoying.

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so true. maybe its blessing in disguise to see who truly is on ur side!

unfortunately, wedding bring out the worst in people. ...try not to let your FSIL get to you..

Ugh, that is the worst

I'm glad you had a good day regardless....and I didn't get to wish you a happy birthday yesterday!