Need to Vent :( My Family is being so unsupportive!

Need to Vent :( My Family is being so unsupportive!

Ok so my engagement to my fiance is nothing new as we have been engaged since 2008... but now that we want to finally get married I am hearing so many negative comments left and right. My father has selected to ignore me and just bash my fiance and myself to my mother. Tonight my mother has said such hurtful things to me that i just wanted to cry. I love how my family wants me to elope or just rent a hall and get it catered just because were gay!!! It's a REAL wedding no matter what god!!!

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Re: Need to Vent :( My Family is being so unsupportive!

Sorry you are dealing with that on top of the stress of planning a wedding.

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Wow... I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. Unfortunately you can't change ignorance even if it is coming from you own family. I would still have the wedding YOU and your FH want - in the end, that's all that matters!

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im so sorry to hear that your family is giving you a hard time... its a shame that people cant see that times have changed... i dont understand why people always had such a hard time with same sex couples. you love who you love and thats that. i say that you and your fiancee have the wedding of your dreams and screw anyone who has anything negative to say about it! its your life and you should enjoy it and live it the way you want!!!!!

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Re: Need to Vent :( My Family is being so unsupportive!

So sorry to hear this

Look, at the end of the day you need to just DO YOU and that is that. Its your big day, your moment to declare to yourselves and the world that you're meant to be and that is all that matters. Don't allow judgmental, ignorant ppl to rain on your parade! This is a happy time, a momentous occasion where 2 ppl in love are uniting and you know what? That's pretty darn awesome. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Obviously thinking positive isn't easy, but you always have the back-up option of threatening to send the LI Weddings Girls after their asses

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Ignore the hate! Your wedding is as real as anyone else's. You should have the wedding of your dreams and when the day comes nothing anyone has said in the past will take anything away from it. Avoid the topic with people who make you feel bad about you want because trust me, it isn't exclusive to same sex marriage, some people just can't be supportive.

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Sorry your family is being unsupportive!! Its both of your day no matter what...so do what is special for you, and ignore the negativity! Enjoy your wedding..becuase it is a wedding like anyone else!

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sorry your going through this... what matters most is your happiness (obv. your families support means a lot) but this is important to you two and its you two that are together for the rest of your life . Its you and your wife in your marriage noone else..... im sure they will come around

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Re: Need to Vent :( My Family is being so unsupportive!

Wow ...that's sad, I'm so sorry you are going through this. Love is love, whether it's gay or straight, and your family should support you. Their love and support to you should be unconditional.

Due to finances, I had the same comments from family - we should just elope, go to city hall, etc. No matter the reason, it always hurts to hear that. But, every girl dreams of her wedding day, no matter who they dream of marrying, and as a bride, you deserve to have your day!

to you!!

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I'm SOOOO sorry you are going through this.

We've had to deal with a lot of ish through our 7.5 year engagement (yes, you read that right). It's good preparation for marriage. You learn to just hold hands and face the world.

When we were going through a rough time, we went to Newport for our 10th anniversary anyway and we found this little refrigerator magnet 'As long as we're together, everything else will fall into place'...i just look at that or think of it and BREATHE...

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it is a real wedding dont let anyone tell you otherwise...im sorry they arent being supportive at this time...hopefully they will come around

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Posted by Ellynrose

Wow... I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. Unfortunately you can't change ignorance even if it is coming from you own family. I would still have the wedding YOU and your FH want - in the end, that's all that matters!

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i completely agree. i'm so sorry you're going through this

you still have the wedding YOU and your FIANCE want to have - don't let anyone stop you!

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Your parents need to grow up!! If they can't be happy for you, then they are not happy with themselves. Horrible!!! And if it is because you are gay, that is even more horrible of them!!! are they embarrassed? Ugh. This kind of ish makes me mad.

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I am so sorry that they are not supporting you. You two deserve to have whatever wedding you want. Hopefully they will realize the error of their ways.

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i just wanted to show my support ... it totally sucks that your family is acting ridiculous!

i can't believe NY hasn't legalized gay marriage yet!

Good luck with everything!

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Wow..im so sorry that you family is saying that ..thats not right no matter what...is it b/c you waited long??? i mean everyone except my friends ..b/c they understand r giving my FH and I a hard time b/c we are waiting 2 years...its b/c we are paying it for our selfs ...but i just dont understand why they are doing that to you....i feel so bad for you...feel better hun...i hope it gets better ..remember you are marrying your prince charming!!!!!