Need to Vent!!! RP from BHB
Background: My Mom's family lives in Nebraska and years ago when my cousin Josh (aunt's son)was getting married my cousin AJ (uncle's son) got engaged and picked the day after. Now one wedding was in Kansas and the other in Nebraska, which was difficult to travel, especially for us coming from NY already. Being closer to my Aunt and her family, we went to Josh's wedding, and sent AJ a present and our well wishes. We would have liked to have gone to both but it was impossible, and AJ picking the date he did after Josh had already set and booked his, set off some family fireworks.
So fast forward. My cousin Ryan and I are both now getting engaged. Neither of us are actually engaged, but we both have pretty much picked 08-08-08. I believe the only reason he picked it is for the date. I picked it one for the date, two b/c it's two days from my parents anniversery so it was kinda a special time, three it's in the summer and im going to be a teacher by then so i won't have to worry about taking off during the school year and four my best friend is getting married 07-07-07 and we have done everything together (known each other since 2nd grade, even went to same college) so it was cool to have something in common like that, and five I wanted a friday for money reasons, and it falls on a friday.
So tonight I was talking to my aunt(who is a bit self centered, everything has to be about me and my family, but past the healthy point of putting your family first), and the whole thing came up and I really didn't want to talk about it. I just kept saying once we are both engaged Ryan and I will talk about it and figure something out so we don't have the problem josh and aj had. I want all of my family at my wedding and so does Ryan. I have already said that if my cousins who have gotten married do not come I will be upset. So she just kept saying, well he has his mind set and is not changing. And then every little thing after that. Well I know he will already tell you that he picked it first, and then tried to go back to our cruise last oct and say they decided on it then. So then she proceeds to call me stubborn and pig headed and she doesn't want to be involved (although I kept trying to change the subject but she kept bringing up how he refuses to give in) and it just kept upsetting me more and more.
Now I also like 06-07-08, but there are just not as many reasons for it, and it's a sat and more expensive (he doesn't understand the diff b/t a ny wedding and nebraska wedding...our cocktail hours are literally more elaborate than my cousisn whole wedding...not too put it down, just a difference between two places).
So I know the easy thing is to just pick my other date, b/c it doesn't look like he is going to budge, but it's like why do I always have to be the one to give in ( i feel like it is that way with everyone). Why does he get the date we both dreamed about?? I'm trying not to worry about it now, but my Aunt just has my blood boiling and my stomach in knots!!!!
Sorry so long, just need to vent, and hear some honest opinions!!!
So fast forward. My cousin Ryan and I are both now getting engaged. Neither of us are actually engaged, but we both have pretty much picked 08-08-08. I believe the only reason he picked it is for the date. I picked it one for the date, two b/c it's two days from my parents anniversery so it was kinda a special time, three it's in the summer and im going to be a teacher by then so i won't have to worry about taking off during the school year and four my best friend is getting married 07-07-07 and we have done everything together (known each other since 2nd grade, even went to same college) so it was cool to have something in common like that, and five I wanted a friday for money reasons, and it falls on a friday.
So tonight I was talking to my aunt(who is a bit self centered, everything has to be about me and my family, but past the healthy point of putting your family first), and the whole thing came up and I really didn't want to talk about it. I just kept saying once we are both engaged Ryan and I will talk about it and figure something out so we don't have the problem josh and aj had. I want all of my family at my wedding and so does Ryan. I have already said that if my cousins who have gotten married do not come I will be upset. So she just kept saying, well he has his mind set and is not changing. And then every little thing after that. Well I know he will already tell you that he picked it first, and then tried to go back to our cruise last oct and say they decided on it then. So then she proceeds to call me stubborn and pig headed and she doesn't want to be involved (although I kept trying to change the subject but she kept bringing up how he refuses to give in) and it just kept upsetting me more and more.
Now I also like 06-07-08, but there are just not as many reasons for it, and it's a sat and more expensive (he doesn't understand the diff b/t a ny wedding and nebraska wedding...our cocktail hours are literally more elaborate than my cousisn whole wedding...not too put it down, just a difference between two places).
So I know the easy thing is to just pick my other date, b/c it doesn't look like he is going to budge, but it's like why do I always have to be the one to give in ( i feel like it is that way with everyone). Why does he get the date we both dreamed about?? I'm trying not to worry about it now, but my Aunt just has my blood boiling and my stomach in knots!!!!
Sorry so long, just need to vent, and hear some honest opinions!!!
