Ok I feel beyond bad for writing these words, actually i am like hmm should I feel bad there not mean. I love FH sooo much! He is my best friend I am so confident he will be nothing but the best husband and father!!
I was chatting with my cousin/BM (married for ten years) and I was saying just how last few months I know I love him so much but it has taken a lot out of me. For example my cousin who is 2 years younger than me was at din tn with her BF and the way she looked at him I was thinking wow I have not looked at FH like that in awhile. His fam. is a bit on the difficult side, and I have been so stressed. He financially does a lot more for us than I but he never takes the initiative, never says let's do this or bla bla. And I felt so sad. I felt sad for actually thinking this way and than for wantin to write these things to u ladies looking for a lil help. I love him so much but it just makes me sad to feel this way ever.
Thanks girls needed to get that off my chest
PreshusSmurf
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I think I know what you mean .... FH & I have been together for 6 years, we've lived together for about 3 1/2 years, a lot of the mystery is gone ... the puppy love is kind of missing ...
But just think of everything we have to look forward to with them in the future!
anglbyme
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If there is 1 thing I have learned it is that the grass is not greener on the other side. I have done the same as you.....see others and say wow I wish I had that, or they look so happy but I have been proven wrong many times. Everyone has things in their relationship that others say they admire or feel even jealous that they may not have. Don't even think that way....if you love FH then it doesn't matter. FH and I have been together for 13.5 yrs and I have been through many of the same feelings you have. In the end he is the right fit, no matter what and you would be missing a lot more if you didn't have him.
FullersBride
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I feel the same way!!! The Zsa ZSa Zoom!!! Is gone!!! I have been with FH for 7.5 years and living together 5.5!!! But there is a comfort thing I have with him that I love! Weddings cause soo much stress that sometimes its hard for us to see the whole picture clearly. You will feel better soon! Just remember why you fell in love with him and hold on to that.
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i think the important thing is that deep down you know what an awesome person your FH is and how you truely feel about him. Everyone of us goes through the excruciating task of planning a wedding and we get so caught up in it all that it drains us practically empty! it's totally normal for you to feel that way. as for your cousin, everyone is in love in different ways. i'm not sure how long they've been dating, but maybe it's a new relationship and it's puppy love...everyone goes through that...the important thing to remember is that she's dating and you're marrying!! it's good to cool off when things get overwhelming...even though FH doesn't suggest things to do, maybe you should come up with non-expensive things to do(if finance is an issue for you)...like i dunno walk around in the park or write down a list of reasons why you fell in love with each other. it'll help, i think! feel better
Men- they just are what they are. If he dosen't take initiative then you take it. I'm sure there are things that he wishes you would do but don't. Life and relationships are not perfect and for those that think that being googlied eyed in love all the time are in for a huge awakening. Sometimes you love him and sometimes you don't. Sometimes you wish he would do or be one way and other times you like him the way he is.
Wedding planning is stressful especially when you are dealing with difficult families and crazy people. Lord knows i've wanted out many times because of it but I know that i'll get over it and things will be fine. Instead, I just come on here and vent to the girls how I want to choke my FMIL or hang FH from the nearest branch. Then I feel better and everyone lives.
Good luck! Everything will be fine!
Aug07OFCbride
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Im so sorry to hear this. Its okay though to say these things, it doesnt mean you love fh any less!!
sometimes we get SO caught up in the daily stresses and the chaos of planning and how comfortable we are with eachother and we find ourselves in a SLUMP! sometimes it only takes something like having a good sit-down-talk (tell him what youre hoping for) or actually planning time to put aside for you guys to do something special with eachother at certain times and do it often. Sometimes even trying to do those things for FH that youre hoping he'd do for you can get him to do the same for you. When youre in the middle of stress it helps to think about all the reasons you fell in love with this person and to remind yourself that this too shall pass! You have so much to look forward to together!!!!! Best wishes. Cheer up!!!
