Need your help

I need some opnions and some sanity!

My MatOH sent out the invites to my SURPRISE Bridal shower sometime last week and FMIL received hers yesterday.
The invites were made out as 'Mrs. MOB and BP invite...' no mention of FMIL. Now keep in mind she hasn't offered to help in anyway she only complained to my mom and MatOH 'couldn't it be closer to my house? Why does it have to be so far east?' I have no clue where it is actually being held, nor do I want to know, hence SURPRISE!!!
She called FH in HYSTERICS yesterday, then left a really nasty message on MatOH's voicemail about 'Thank you for your lack of respect...slapping her in the face...lack of consideration for how it was going to look to her friends and family...I told you I would help in anyway possible' HUH? Is she for real??? My MatOH has been complaining about FMIL all along so this has come as no shock to me. I got the same speech when she found out we went traditional with the invites and only put my moms name on the top and FIL's names under FH's. She's done this before, where she twists truth to make herself look better (even if it means outright lying)

Here's the problem- FH fully believes his mother, not anyone else, as always. I don't want to go anywhere near FMIL because I don't know how to handle this and I know she'll do something spiteful like leaving the invite on the fridge for me to see. And how do I handle FH and try to get him to see that maybe his mother isn't as perfect as she makes herself out to be?
Sorry it's so long I feel like all I've done lately on here is vent.

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Posted by qtdimps23

wow...im sorry you're going through this. does your mom have any relationship with your FMIL? can she talk to her? and have you told your FH everything your FMIL has been doing to drive everyone nuts?

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My mom and FMIL have NO relationship whatsoever. They tolerate each other at best. I've tried to talk to her but it hasn't done any good. And FH got home from a long weekend away and I haven't really seen him to talk to him about it.

And I know there isn't really anything I can do about it, I'm just at my wits end with the woman

wow.. I so feel your pain.

I really dont think there is anything you can or should do about it. Its not about HER... this is YOUR day.. and you should know nothing about any drama. They need to keep it between themselves and your FMIL needs to get over it. Dont endulge her in her tantrums.
I mean.. who is she venting to? The people that know better really.. Im just sorry your FH doesnt see it.

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Posted by SherinJeff

wow.. I so feel your pain.

I really dont think there is anything you can or should do about it. Its not about HER... this is YOUR day.. and you should know nothing about any drama. They need to keep it between themselves and your FMIL needs to get over it. Dont endulge her in her tantrums.
I mean.. who is she venting to? The people that know better really.. Im just sorry your FH doesnt see it.

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Exactly NOONE is supposed to involve the bride, especially if it involves drama!!!!!!!
If FH brings it up again, send him in your moms or MOH direction. Tell him you don't want to be involved at ALL!!!!! Then try you best (I know easier said than done) to not think about it. People like that WANT attention, best thing you can do is ignore it, that's also good advice for your mom and BP as well. Hope it all works out for you!

That's a tough situation.....A lot of men think their mommies are perfect so that might be hard for your Fh to see. (I am lucky in that depat. my FH knows his mom is a loony tune) lol
All you can do is talk to your FH in a calm, respectful manner and ask him to handle it. It might be tough but at least you're trying...Teh other option is to just ignore her...as hard as that might be!
XOXOXO
Kitty