Need your Help

SoontobeMrsG Posted: Aug 22, 2009 11:53 AM

Need your Help

What are you ladies doing for bridesmaid shoes?
I have not been a bridezilla by any means, the only thing I asked was for closed toe dyeables. I figured you cant see them anyway under a long dress.
Well yesterday my best friend tells me that when she told a coworker she needed dyeable shoes the girl responded with 'that is so out'
UGH! Really? I had to remind my best friend that not only did we have closed toe dyeables for her, she wanted everyone in the same shoe!
so now I am upset and second guessing my choice.
Their dress is eggplant in color. Pic in my album.
I would appreciate any help or suggestions.

kellylee418 Posted: Aug 22, 2009 12:20 PM

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I don't think dyables are out! It's fine! If that's what you want, then get it.

I just told my girls to get silver shoes - they are wearing a wine colored long gown. I had a hard enough time getting them to order their dresses so it would have been a nightmare if they had to do dyables! I couldn't be bothered with the stress it would have caused me!

SoontobeMrsG Posted: Aug 22, 2009 12:23 PM

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I like the idea of silver shoes my sister had mentioned that. Are you haveing the girls in all the same shoe?

geegee827 Posted: Aug 22, 2009 12:36 PM

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I'm not doing dyeables nor do I care if they're all wearing the same shoe. The dresses are long - no one's goin to see their feet.

gina409 Posted: Aug 22, 2009 12:50 PM

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i know plenty of people who got dyables for a wedding..i just told my girls to match the sash..i know one is gettng dyd and i know one who is buying ses to match...dont let that girl strss u out..as long a they match who cars if they r dyed or not

ajlgmm815 Posted: Aug 22, 2009 01:31 PM

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my sisters got silver shoes i figured they could probablt wear them again. i let them pick the style they were most comfortable in.

springsandra Posted: Aug 22, 2009 02:12 PM

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I just had the girls get silver strappy sandals. Didn't matter to me what they looked like.

My mom did dyeables and they were great.

Do whatever YOU want... seriously, people should just keep their mouths shut.

KerriJohnS Posted: Aug 22, 2009 02:31 PM

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Personally if you can't even see the shoe... then to me it doesn't matter what shoe they are wearing. open toe, closed toe, dyed, not dyed, high, low....etc. So I told my girls to make sure they get shoes that are comfortable for them and if possible get silver... if they can't get silver... no biggie. I really don't mind that much. Main concern is comfort, since they are wearing them all day long! haha!

However, if this girl had specific stipulations on her shoes... then she has NO RIGHT to say a word about your shoe choices. I call that a HYPROCRYTE!!!!!!!!!!!! Big time!!! I would be sooo annoied by this if I were you...

mosh424 Posted: Aug 22, 2009 02:54 PM

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I don't think dyeables are out but I would do silver shoes just becasue they can use them again. I chose long gowns for my girls and are just asking them to have strapy heeled silver sandals. no one will really seem them so I dont mind them being different.

DomesticDeeva Posted: Aug 22, 2009 03:22 PM

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I wanted to use silver sandals, but when we tried them on with the dress, it just didn't look right. (They had tea length dresses). So we went with dyables. I told them to get whatever shoe they wanted so they would be comfy, and they all happened to pick the same shoe lol. We went to Payless..it was $45 for the shoe & dying, so at least they didn't spend too much for a shoe they won't use again.

I don't think dyables are out, but I wanted them to have a shoe they could use again..it just didn't work out...but if they have long dresses, you could go either way.

MrsGRod09 Posted: Aug 22, 2009 03:24 PM

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If dyeables are sooo out then why do they sell them? I would still stick with the dyeables no matter what.

mrsjpc3 Posted: Aug 22, 2009 03:31 PM

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I dont think they are technically 'out', per se, but I think the more current style is either black, gold or a silver heel, since those colors match most any color dress and arent too matchy matchy. Plus the girls can wear them again.

meara Posted: Aug 22, 2009 03:40 PM

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1 - I do say do what you want and it seemed kind of rude to tell you that what you wanted was 'out'

for me I honestly just told the girls to wear whatever they wanted that looked good with the dress bc the matching wasn't important to me and they all looked great but its individual so go for what you want. .

SoontobeMrsG Posted: Aug 22, 2009 03:43 PM

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Thanks girls!, You are bringing up a lot of great points!
I do want them to be comfortable since they have to wear them all day & night. At least if I go with the silver shoes they can wear them again.

Since their dresses are in, as soon as one of them goes for a fitting I can see what it looks like in person!

JessNicole7EM Posted: Aug 24, 2009 12:31 PM

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Sorry I'm crashing but I just saw this and a few weeks ago my aunt was up visiting from Maryland with her sister (whom is not related to me, nor am I close enough to her to invite her to the wedding)

and the sister starts asking me all these questions about the wedding and out of no where she says 'Oh don't make your girls get silver shoes, if I have to buy one more pair of ugly silver shoes for a wedding I'm going to start killing the brides. what are they thinking?'

This was like a week after I told all my girls they could all get silver shoes once I finally pick the dress so that way they can pick whatever they want.

Some people are just going to obnoxiously insert their opinion everywhere when you're planning a wedding. I'm just going to come to expect it and not let it bother me. Do whatever makes you happy!

FutureMrsM Posted: Aug 24, 2009 01:45 PM

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I told them all to just get whatever brown, gold or bronze shoe that matched and was comfortable. No one is going to see their shoes any way and I didn't want to make them buy a pair of shoes that they really couldn't use for anything again... It's your preference, whatever you want them to do.

GT143EA Posted: Aug 24, 2009 01:53 PM

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My girls wore eggplant dresses and silver shoes.

SoontobeMrsG Posted: Aug 24, 2009 07:31 PM

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Thanks girls!
It just never ceases to amaze me at what people will say to you!!!!

SoonT00beMrsC Posted: Aug 24, 2009 09:07 PM

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dont get me started w/ my bm shoes... lol i asked for closed front.. dyeable shoes... i have 8 girls. 3 have peeptoe...2 have sandals.. someone else got this big brioche on the other one... im like hello plain shoe...