need your help!!!and advice

Has anyone had this happen... what do you do?
I mailed my invites last week and now the replys have been coming
one couple from upstate cant make it and sent us a check
made out to mr and mrs. shapiro, do I send a thank you now or when I do my regular thank yous?? I have thank yous that I ordered but they say craig and tammy with a big S in the middle and have our new address but they are in cellophane still not opened. Do I send them a mr. and mrs thank you when we are not mr and mrs yet??? or do I wait and send them a thank you in september? what do you guys think and what have you done, plus I guess I have to give the check to my FI now right? lol or do we have to hold that till august too?

If and when this happens to me (I have not sent out invites yet), this is what I plan on doing:

1. If it's someone I am comfortable calling (friend, family member I have regular contact with, not some long lost relative my mom put on the list), I will call them and thank them and tell them an official wedding thank you is on the way after our wedding day.

2. If it's someone I'm not close to, I will send an average thank you card (like a hallmark) and tell them in it that the official thank you will arrive after our wedding day.

As for holding the check, I think I would deposit it, being that I will be acknowledging the gift, and will acknowledge it 'properly' when the official time comes. Hope this helps and that I am planning on doing this the right way!! Good luck!!

Thanks you guys, I actually email this person frequently so maybe I will send him and email thanking him and saying I am sorry they cannot come to the wedding and he will get his official thank you when I send out the thank yous after the wedding, he will understand why I am not doing thank yous now anyway, as I am studying for the bar exam and this person works for barbri
he knows I have to study a lot lol

is your church Our lady in massapequa?? My sister
who is only 25 plays bingo there a lot

I would send a nice thankyou now, and an offical one after the wedding. It might be hard to deposit, since you are not a Mrs. S yet though but I would try. Not sure how that works.
Anyway if it is a close family member I would call and personally thank them very much.

It is just an acquaintance
not a close family member
I sent a nice email and said he will get his official thank you in september that I cannot use the mr. and mrs. stationary yet :)