my MOH is graduating in Ohio in 3 weeks. FH has been out of work for 4 months now. We have been living pay check to pay check for a while. I assumed that things would have been better by now but they really havent and I dont think I will financially be able to go and be there with her. Is this horriable, how can I ask someone to go throught expenses ect. for my wedding when I can't even be there for her on a special day for her? What do you think? I feel soo badly about this I don't know what to do.
Bebalina
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i know what i'm gonna say really stinx, but if i was ur MOH, i'd feel really hurt, and even though she shouldnt...its a natural feeling...i'm sorry
Nikki10-12-03
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I think if she is your BF she should truly understand your situation ( I know I would) and as far as her doing things for your wedding for you she should want to. A real friend would do it because they want to and without expecting anything in return. Good Luck to you sweetie and I hope things will get better
lullabella
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Are you getting married in 2006? If so then I would say you should go. You have plenty of time to save for your wedding.
But only you can say whether or not you can really afford it. If you don't have it - then you don't have it. I am sure she will understand.
bedda26
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I agree with Nikki. If she is truly your friend then she should do those things for your wedding because she wants to and not because she expects favors in return. It's called unconditional love.
aliciahelene
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I agree that she will understand if she is truly your friend. her graduation isnt an expense to her.its not costing her anything.your wedding is an expense to you.its costing you thousands....its not even a comparable situation. We have driven to Ohio, we made it in 7 hours..not sure where your friend is, but thats always an option, or theres priceline..you can bid on teh airfare and get some REALLY great prices. I know its a tough decision..but you can only do what your finances will allow. Best of luck!
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I know... I just dont know what to say to her. I wish I could say I am worried about wedding savings. I am worried abut paying my bills. If it was a question of wedding $ it wouldnt be a question.
aliciahelene
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If you are living paycheck to paycheck..thats a tough place to be..I remember it all too well, very stressful. She is yoru friend, she loves you, like someone else posted on here, its unconditional love..Im sure she would LOVE it if you made it to her graduation, but Im sure she also understands!!!! I had to delcine being in a friend's wedding because I had just been in my sisters and I just couldnt afford to be in another wedding, I was single and BROKE, I was very honest with her and she totally understood. Good luck with everything..I know its hard!
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Posted by lullabella
Are you getting married in 2006? If so then I would say you should go. You have plenty of time to save for your wedding.
But only you can say whether or not you can really afford it. If you don't have it - then you don't have it. I am sure she will understand.
I agree.
aliciahelene
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If she knows Fh has been out of work..I doubt shes even expecting you to go!! have a nice talk with her and explain your situation!!! It will be fine!!
KarenK122
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I kind of disagree with everyone. While I understand things are tough and money is tight, if you promised her you'd go and be part of her special day then you should make every effort too. Ohio isn't that far you could drive and maybe stay with her so you don't have to pay a hotel bill.
If your just worried about getting her a gift, I'm sure she would understand your not financially able to do that right now or you could even make her something - like a scrapbook of your friendship.
MizStinker
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Thanks soo much everyone !
I just found some bus rates if that needs to be the way I go (I hope not).
I did some number crunching and think I will able to make it. I do agree that I should go no matter what I would be soo hurt if she told me that she couldnt 'make' my wedding, I can't really justify not going.
