FH and I had decided that his sister from Vegas and his brother(gm) would sit at opposite ends of the room at the reception...last time they were together the brother tried to choke her both their kids are in the wedding but there will be a kids table so I am sure they will run into eachother at some point
well last night fh went to his moms and she wants all of her kids at the table with her and that she will have a 'talk' with them
why are we pretending like they like eachother they dont...I dont want a brawl at the wedding.His brother is a bit of a Hot head as is why add fuel to the fire I say seperate them he now says they will be good...... What should we do????
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Personally, I don't think a wedding is the time and/or place to debate and try to resolve family differences. Maybe different tables that are close to each other so your FMIL has her family close but does not make her children uncomfortable? It's a tough situation. Either way, you'll probably be too busy to notice. Good luck.
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I think that if they are both in the BP then the opportunity for them to 'brawl' will be there anyway so i think sitting htme at the same table is no biggie...Maybe they will sit at oppiste ends of the table... Either way i would listen to you FMIL...
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if your fh's fam feel they can sit together and be civil w each other then... ok? i'll cross my fingers for you! my bro's a hot head also but he knows not to act in a way during special events. hopefully your BIL will simmer down. just hope for the best and good luck.
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Why not try talking to the sister or brother and see if they are even comfortable sitting at the same table. Just because your FMIL wants her kids sitting with her, which I totally understand, doesn't mean that it would be wise, especially if the two feel like they will be some type of controversy at your wedding.
If the brother has tried choking the sister, then I would be afraid that the mother really wouldn't be able to do much from keeping them from fighting at the wedding. I really think you need to discuss it with them. After all this is your day and you really dont need the stress of worrying if they are going to be behaving themselves.
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Not to make light of this, but can they up the meds?...why can't adults behave like adults and suck it up? Who cares that they don't like each other..they should ge out of their own anger and care about someone else for a change. I think that's what your FH's family is thinking.
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Also wanted to clarify a few other things There children are in the bridal party and so is the brother Not the sister
The brother choked the sister in front of FMIL they are in there 40's and this was only like 2-3yrs ago this happened I will never forgive them if they fight at the wedding I really won't
OH and the most important ...the brother said to me'You better keep her away from me because I might flip out ' so we told him they dont have to sit together
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'I might flipout?' Get a grip, why should everyone else have to accommodate him? I'm sorry, but you touched a button with this....I will be happy to put him in his place if you need me to...
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my god.. he sounds like a BABY! does he normally get his way??? and if not he cries?? sheesh! he shouldn't be stressing you out. someone should give him a time out... maybe you should take BLU-IZE up on her offer
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Posted by justshir
my god.. he sounds like a BABY! does he normally get his way??? and if not he cries?? sheesh! he shouldn't be stressing you out. someone should give him a time out... maybe you should take BLU-IZE up on her offer
M=tough Just tell me where and when..
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Uhm...yeah. I can understand your source of discomfort. If he said that and they have a history then I would not take that chance. I mean if they are sitting at the same table all night together there is going to be that sense of discomfort to start...then introduce alcohol and well that sounds like a disaster ready to happen. Follow your heart!
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I think that if they are both in the BP then the opportunity for them to 'brawl' will be there anyway so i think sitting htme at the same table is no biggie...Maybe they will sit at oppiste ends of the table... Either way i would listen to you FMIL...
I agree...if they're going to brawl separate tables won't mean a thing. And again you'll be having the time of your life and hopefully it won't come to pass!!
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Posted by oct.2004bride
I think that if they are both in the BP then the opportunity for them to 'brawl' will be there anyway so i think sitting htme at the same table is no biggie...Maybe they will sit at oppiste ends of the table... Either way i would listen to you FMIL...
I agree...if they're going to brawl separate tables won't mean a thing. And again you'll be having the time of your life and hopefully it won't come to pass!!
Honestly, if he said that to me I would have said, ok, then you are not invited. How immature is that? ICK!
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Similar scenario for me -- my brothers don't speak to one another and of course, neither do my sister in laws. I do not plan to sit them together for the simple sake that I do not need any drama on my wedding day. In a perfect world we would expect that they behave like adults. However, I'm not taking any chances. Good luck.
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Thanks for all the support...FH told his mom that his brother said nmot to sit them together now she is pissed at him(the bro not fh)
and yes to all of you who asked if he is always like this. he is such a baby and a hothead its so annoying(he is also a recovering drug addict ) so we all walk on nails around him as is...ya know one thing and it may push him over the edge ugh
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Posted by newnybride2be
Why not try talking to the sister or brother and see if they are even comfortable sitting at the same table. Just because your FMIL wants her kids sitting with her, which I totally understand, doesn't mean that it would be wise, especially if the two feel like they will be some type of controversy at your wedding.
If the brother has tried choking the sister, then I would be afraid that the mother really wouldn't be able to do much from keeping them from fighting at the wedding. I really think you need to discuss it with them. After all this is your day and you really dont need the stress of worrying if they are going to be behaving themselves.
