Ladies, I need your advice. My DH is so unhappy in his job and is literally being emotionally abused on a daily basis. It is breaking my heart to see him this way. As much as it may be a little challenging and change our lifestyle a bit, I know I can handle the bills for a couple of months while he finds something else. He feels like a quitter if he leaves his job without a new one, but he is also not sleeping, is unhealthy, etc. Would you support him quitting if you were me?
A little background - I have wanted to quit before and he has been strongly opposed to it so I didn't. But I also am not abused on a daily basis.
Jackie&Justin
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hmmm if you could afford it id be okay with it, however why wasnt he okay with you quitting yours?
cindyandkevin
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I would support him with whatever he wants to do. Tell him that you'd be able to handle the bills alone but you need to understand that your DH (as the traditional provider for the family) may not feel comfortable not having any income.
Support him in looking for a new job while he still has this one. Then when he finds something he can give his 2 weeks notice, or just walk out if he doesn't care about references.
for your DH
Good luck!!
Kerrycec
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if you can afford, I'd suggest it but keep in mind your DH's pride. He may not want to feel like a burden on his new wife (old school thinking, but my DH is this way).
ewickens
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Support him through it all! Help find him another job in the mean time, b/c then he'll start putting his mind elsewhere instead of thinking about his current position.
BEANS
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Whether we could afford it or not I would tell him to quit. Life is too short to be miserable & abused. You will make it work.
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Posted by cindyandkevin
I would support him with whatever he wants to do. Tell him that you'd be able to handle the bills alone but you need to understand that your DH (as the traditional provider for the family) may not feel comfortable not having any income.
Support him in looking for a new job while he still has this one. Then when he finds something he can give his 2 weeks notice, or just walk out if he doesn't care about references.
for your DH
Good luck!!
I agree!
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Whether we could afford it or not I would tell him to quit. Life is too short to be miserable & abused. You will make it work.
I agree. I previously worked in a place where most people were miserable and one of the guys quit a few months before his wedding!! He had no other job lined up and his fiance also worked at the company. But he was so miserable that he quit. Life is definitely too short. Just try to support him with whatever he wants. Here are some .
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Whether we could afford it or not I would tell him to quit. Life is too short to be miserable & abused. You will make it work.
ditto. especially if you can cover things in the meantime.
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Whether we could afford it or not I would tell him to quit. Life is too short to be miserable & abused. You will make it work.
I totally agree with this statement.
Katie&Chris2006
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Thanks for all the input ladies. DH and I are going to talk about it tonight some more and see if we can make a decision. I'm so worried about him!
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why doesnt he look for a new job while working at his old one...
i know its hard for him but if something happened while he was out of work, the financial hardships could be alot worse than the day to day he is dealing with at work.
him being out of work also isnt the best way to start off a new marriage. figting over money is a horrible thing. if you can avoid it for a few months while he quietly looks for a new job, then i would do that instead of him quitting and you having all the burden.
good luck!!
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i think you should leave it alone.
you offered him the option to leave if he wants to - and that is all you can do.
career is something i never but my nose into. i will give DH my honest opinions and support but i push nothing when it comes to career. we both work very hard and i would be resentful if he pushed me around and i refuse to do the same to him.
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LBride
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I would let him quit.. constant stress can cause all sorts of issues (trust me I've been battling the effects for the past year)
AlliNMatt06
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I would tell your DH to quit his job. Life is too short to be so unhappy.
DandS
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I think if you can afford to lose one salary for now, I would support it. He needs to be happy for both of you. This is hurting you as much as it is hurting him, and it is not healthy for you both!
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I would tell your DH to quit his job. Life is too short to be so unhappy.
I 100% agree with this!
lipglossjunky73
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Sometimes when things like this are happening, decisions are made for you... my DH felt the same way in his last job, and didn't want to quit. they wound up laying him off - so he was forced to look for somehting else, a job he really likes a lot....
