Negative comments from DH....

Emily7 Posted: Jul 28, 2004 08:57 AM

Negative comments from DH....

DH and I decided to start TTC in 3 months (I started my prenatals this week). Still, he is so worried and is constantly making negative comments about how much things will change when we have a 'kid' around. Quite frankly, I think he would be just as happy never having children, although he says he wants them. I had to do some arm twisting to get him on board to start TTC, and not I wish I hadn't. We had a big fight last night because we were out and he started making all of these comments again and when I tried to remain positive and say how you give up some things for other, etc. he just made all of these nasty faces! Has anyone experienced anything similar to this?

wc0143 Posted: Jul 28, 2004 09:56 AM

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Sounds like he is not really ready (esp if you 'had to do some arm twisting') ...

btrflygrl Posted: Jul 28, 2004 10:12 AM

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I got similar comments, nothing nasty, just freaked out attitude when I'd mention kids. Now he's coming around and thinking we should start soon (we're married 4 months) after we get our home.

Give him some time...let it go for awhile and see if he mentions it. Just enjoyed married life right now.

FutureMrs Posted: Jul 28, 2004 10:23 AM

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I think having children is a life altering change for the better in many ways. Alot of guys need more time to feel comfortable with that. I wouldn't push him and wait until he really wants to and you can enjoy it together stress free. Good luck with everything.

Emily7 Posted: Jul 28, 2004 10:24 AM

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The problem is that he claims to be ready -- or at least as ready as he'll ever be. I guess I just don't believe him anymore. I mean - don't get me wrong - he is excited and positive SOMETIMES - it's just these little comments every once in a while that make me wonder...

Kelly9904 Posted: Jul 28, 2004 12:14 PM

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maybe you should sit down with him and ask him about the negative comments. It does seem to me that he isnt ready based on your description and maybe he is saying he is ready because he knows how much you want this.

I would sit down and talk to him, tell him that you dont want to have kids until you are both in the same mindset and tell him how his comments are affecting you.

matron Posted: Jul 28, 2004 02:38 PM

Re: Negative comments from DH....

Posted by Emily7

The problem is that he claims to be ready -- or at least as ready as he'll ever be. I guess I just don't believe him anymore. I mean - don't get me wrong - he is excited and positive SOMETIMES - it's just these little comments every once in a while that make me wonder...

I'd be nervous too, but maybe he's just afraid??? Maybe he's as ready as he'll ever be. (???)