Nerve

MamanDaddyof2 Posted: Dec 28, 2004 11:33 AM

Nerve

I have a lot of children in my familymost are my cousins ....but the only children I am having at the wedding are the ones in th e wedding party 2 are my own children and the rest (6) are my nephews and my neice so I had told my aunt that only my cousins who are over 18 are invited because I can not afford to invite the rest which is more than 25 kids. I said this at the beginning and my FMIL was also having an issue with this and keeps asking me to make an exception for these 2 kids in her family but NO is NO because it wouldnt be fair to my moms side right.

so at Christmas my aunt goes oh my kids arent invited ...and I again said no only over 18 and she had the nerve to tell me my cousin Toniann wont be 18 until 5 days after my wedding so she shouldnt come

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?what is wrong with people

Dom n Nic Posted: Dec 28, 2004 11:49 AM

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Posted by MamanDaddyof2

I have a lot of children in my familymost are my cousins ....but the only children I am having at the wedding are the ones in th e wedding party 2 are my own children and the rest (6) are my nephews and my neice so I had told my aunt that only my cousins who are over 18 are invited because I can not afford to invite the rest which is more than 25 kids. I said this at the beginning and my FMIL was also having an issue with this and keeps asking me to make an exception for these 2 kids in her family but NO is NO because it wouldnt be fair to my moms side right.

so at Christmas my aunt goes oh my kids arent invited ...and I again said no only over 18 and she had the nerve to tell me my cousin Toniann wont be 18 until 5 days after my wedding so she shouldnt come

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?what is wrong with people

lol i just posted something about kids at a wedding .. it is really becoming a pain in the butt...

my engagement party i had no kids besides my neice's and nephews whats makes these people think im going to have them at the wedding

Dom n Nic Posted: Dec 28, 2004 11:50 AM

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this is what i posted ...

fh and i decided the only kids we are going to have at the wedding are our nieces & nephews (how do we both tell our sisters they can't bring their kids lol)

last night he was saying that he might have to invite his 3rd cousins kid who will be 17 at the time at first i said ok thats fine he really is not a kid but this 17 year old have 2 little sister that will be 9 & 10 now how do we tell the parents you can bring your 17 year old and not the other..

plus his other 3rd cousin who is brother with the above parents i mentioned has kids also now what are we going to invite one brothers kids and not the other.. so i told him now way then if we invite them with their kids other people are going to say well how come they were invited with kids and not me ..

the only other kid i am inviting that is not a nephew or neice is my uncle''s kid who is MY 1ST cousin ..

there is no need to start inviting 3rd cousins kids.. im sorry i dont even want kids their but that was already spoken about with our parents we have to have our sisters kids there.. i just don't think kids should be at a wedding you want to dance and have fun you dont want kids running around the dance floor playing tag lol and bumping into people

so how do i tell him NO to the 3rd cousins thing without starting a argument
and its really not my fh its his mom

but what i dont understand is when my fh brother got married his brother NO to kids and it was ok but now that its us she is saying we have to think about it .. why us???

nferrandi Posted: Dec 28, 2004 12:01 PM

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Stick to your guns and lay down the law! If kids will be too much for you, either for your piece of mind or your wallet, then people just need to get over it. You can't start making exceptions because that's when problems and resentments start.

akaMrsT Posted: Dec 28, 2004 12:30 PM

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Posted by MamanDaddyof2

I have a lot of children in my familymost are my cousins ....but the only children I am having at the wedding are the ones in th e wedding party 2 are my own children and the rest (6) are my nephews and my neice so I had told my aunt that only my cousins who are over 18 are invited because I can not afford to invite the rest which is more than 25 kids. I said this at the beginning and my FMIL was also having an issue with this and keeps asking me to make an exception for these 2 kids in her family but NO is NO because it wouldnt be fair to my moms side right.

so at Christmas my aunt goes oh my kids arent invited ...and I again said no only over 18 and she had the nerve to tell me my cousin Toniann wont be 18 until 5 days after my wedding so she shouldnt come

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?what is wrong with people

I think that they don't understand that you have to pay for them each to attend.

I am in VA and ran into my sister's friend at the mall. I introduced her to FI and she asked when is the wedding and if she is invited. I told her no and she then told FI to make sure she gets an invite. As if he would ever do that once I said she could not come.

Later, the same night, my sister ran into her at another store and told her that the wedding will cost me like $75 - $100 per person and that I am only inviting family. This woman understood then.

I believe that people who have not had a NY wedding or been involved in the planning (and expense) do not get that it's not just a pot luck that everyone can attend.