Nervous all of a sudden. Help & Anyone else??

Hey all. Out of absolutey nowhere, after a year and 2 months of engagement, I'm suddenly finding myself nervous for no identifiable reason. It hit out of nowhere! We booked our honeymoon flights last night and that's when I got a little freaked. I absolutely love my fh, so what the h*ll is the deal?

If anyone has gone through this, please speak up. (and tell me it is normal and passes...) I feel like such a freak right now! Help!

what are you nervous about?


i think its natural to have fears, concerns, and maybe moments of weakness where you may have a slight doubt... But no one else can tell you how to think or feel about it. every person & every relationship is different. what may have been a minor thing to one, may have been major enough to someone else to call off their wedding. you need to evaluate your own situation and feelings, and then decide what level of value this holds... whether its just a passing thought, or something more. jmho


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First of all, you are NOT a freak!! I think it’s perfectly normal the feelings you have, and you’re not alone. I’ll bet that more than ½ of all brides get the same feelings you do.

Don’t worry! This too shall pass

Thanks for the replies, girls. This is nothing like thinking 'oh my G*d, I don't want to get married,' just some odd existential moment realizing JUST how big a deal this is. (Not that I hadn't logically thought of this obvious thing before, it just struck me differently). I honestly think some of the wedding planning and never-ending loose ends and small details are finally getting to me....

I'm going with the 'passing' nervousness. I don't know why I never thought I may get a little nervous at some point--this is a big deal! (A great one, but even really positive good things/changes take some adjustment)...

I know I don't post all that often, but I am SO thankful to have this outlet and support.
Love to hear from moreof you!!!!

Honestly I think the feeling is very normal. Engagement and wedding planning is a very stressful time with immotions getting out of wack. Sometimes that gets translated into anxiety and uncertainty.

I had anxiety when we ordered our invitations. I was freaking out! but eventually, my emmotions settled as I am sure yours will.

I totally understand how you are feeling. I started to freak out after Pre Kana becasue I realized that I am going to be in charge of all the finances. I think I am more afraid of being a wife. I have been with my FI since 1998 and I tell him I am so nervous about being his wife. I told him I don't know how good I will be but I will learn and be patient. He was great though, he told me that we will get through all of this together. After all the vows say through good times and bad.

My guy friend calls it the 'booking the band' syndrome. I ended an engagement after freaking out about booking the band and realizing it was all wrong but a little nervousness is definately called for when you are booking these things. When I got engaged this time, he asked if I booked the band. I told him it made me nervous but that it was done! You are fine Its just becoming more real now.

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Posted by ckgmwedding

My guy friend calls it the 'booking the band' syndrome. I ended an engagement after freaking out about booking the band and realizing it was all wrong but a little nervousness is definately called for when you are booking these things. When I got engaged this time, he asked if I booked the band. I told him it made me nervous but that it was done! You are fine Its just becoming more real now.

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I love this phrase. I think I'll have to share it with my fh. I think I'm a bit nervous about being a 'wife,' although I hadn't thought about it until someone in this topic asked it in that way. It's odd b/c I depend on my fh SO much for certain thing, but am fiercely independent in others. I think it's somewhat about finding the balance between real intimacy and jumping in with both feet and still maintaining a healthy separate sense of self at the same time. However, we did 'book the band,' so that's something, right?

i feel ya ... i'm all of a sudden sooo nervous, mainly about planning and hoping everything comes through. i never was before and all my bm's were nervous for me!! now all of a sudden, I am .. and they're ok!!