I'm not sure if you are married or are engaged, but something in your msg. sounds like you are hoping something more may/will come from your call. After all these years, what do you hope to come out of this? Would your FH/DH approve? Would you tell him you called?
Also, put yourself in his gf/wife/girl he's living with shoes....how would you feel if FH/DH got the same call from an ex gf?
I just think it may be asking for trouble.....JMO
heidla
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As long as your motives are just to reconnect then call him. If the girlfriend answers just act like you would when you are calling any friend. My DH has had a couple of old college friends call him over the past couple of years. A few were woman and it never bothered me.
LFitzy79
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no, it's not like I am looking for it to be anything. We just always used to be there for eachother...and it tappered off somehow. He lives upstate, like 6 hours away from me, I am not looking to upset his life. There are just things that my FH doesn't understand because he's never been in the situation, and this guy does understand. I am going to call when I get home from work, if there are no sinister intentions, then eveything should be fine, right?
heidla
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Posted by LFitzy79
no, it's not like I am looking for it to be anything. We just always used to be there for eachother...and it tappered off somehow. He lives upstate, like 6 hours away from me, I am not looking to upset his life. There are just things that my FH doesn't understand because he's never been in the situation, and this guy does understand. I am going to call when I get home from work, if there are no sinister intentions, then eveything should be fine, right?
Is calling him going to have an adverse effect on your relationship? Is this something that you will tell your DH you are doing?
I just had drinks with a friend of mine that I had not seen in 2 years. DH came with me because I had nothing to hide from him by doing it.
I would call, but let your FH know what is up.
SweetCin704
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Posted by heidla
Posted by LFitzy79
no, it's not like I am looking for it to be anything. We just always used to be there for eachother...and it tappered off somehow. He lives upstate, like 6 hours away from me, I am not looking to upset his life. There are just things that my FH doesn't understand because he's never been in the situation, and this guy does understand. I am going to call when I get home from work, if there are no sinister intentions, then eveything should be fine, right?
Is calling him going to have an adverse effect on your relationship? Is this something that you will tell your DH you are doing?
I just had drinks with a friend of mine that I had not seen in 2 years. DH came with me because I had nothing to hide from him by doing it.
I would call, but let your FH know what is up.
I agree fully. If its something you can't tell your FH then I wouldn't.
