we're giving up and just letting the 16yo have his gf invited........after telling his parents under 18yo dont get a guest, and that its rude to ask to bring a guest....., after the wedding they wont be invited to our home anyways so we will conceede until after the wedding, its just too much stress trying to deal with it....UGHhhhhhh.....
ChristineC68
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This is from Emily Post...
(it does not specifically address dates for 16 year olds, but it does say guests should not add on a guest).
Respect your invitation. Do not ask your host or hostess if you can bring a date or your children. The invitation will be addressed to the people invited. If you may bring a guest, your invitation will read “Mr. John Phelps and guest.” If your children are invited, they will either receive their own personal invitations or their names will be listed under yours on the envelope. This is not the time to question your host’s decision, to argue or to beg for an exception. And, please, do not add their names to a reply card!
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looking for something a little more specific.......
looks like we will have to invite the 16yo's gf
thiadora
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I've done some searching for you, but I can't find anything specific. What I did find was that you don't have to invite a single guest with a 'plus one' unless they are married, engaged or living together. And that it is also impolite for a guest to ask if they can bring a date when it is not indicated that they are invited with one. I have also read that over 18 gets a separate invitation, but under is still included with the family.
But that aside, I think that a 16 year old cousin is still a 'child' and does not have to be invited with a 'friend.' I am irritated that your aunt is being this rude. I'm going to search some more for you. If I find something better (that will help your case), I'll let you know.
Good luck
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tell your aunt she has nerve asking to bring her child's g/f - i know i read somewhere that minors dont receive guests as they are considered part of their parents invite and not on one of their own - will look in the books i have to see if i can find the exact wording. but it is your wedding and dont invite anyone you dont want to - stand up for yourself - if you dont want her there just say no
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That is insane. We gave only people over 18 dates.
butterfly20
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looks like we will be conceeding and letting the 16 yo bring the gf........the 16 yo who hasnt said a word to us the four years ive gone to family events, the 16 yo who was found SNOOPING in our personal papers at fhs house, and yes these were hidden papers, not just lying out in the open.....AND who recorded onto our tape player many messed up things............ ughhhh...... mike and I are finally realizing the expression that the weding is about everyone else and not the bride and groom...
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Posted by butterfly20
looks like we will be conceeding and letting the 16 yo bring the gf........the 16 yo who hasnt said a word to us the four years ive gone to family events, the 16 yo who was found SNOOPING in our personal papers at fhs house, and yes these were hidden papers, not just lying out in the open.....AND who recorded onto our tape player many messed up things............ ughhhh...... mike and I are finally realizing the expression that the weding is about everyone else and not the bride and groom...
I hear you. We are having at least 16-20 children at our wedding. (That's under 12 years old) In FH's family they don't just invite the cousin, they invite the cousin's children too. I like children, but I was thinking neices, nephews, first cousins. I can't say that I'm trilled, but I've come to terms with it.
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yeah..... and this cousins brother, him and his gf havent talked to us in the last 4 years and are invited too.....concession.....AND his sister, which is the cousin who is outwardly jealous of us, her and her bf are invited also havent talked to us in 4 years, AND is jealous because she feels she should be married first since shes older
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Posted by butterfly20
looks like we will be conceeding and letting the 16 yo bring the gf........the 16 yo who hasnt said a word to us the four years ive gone to family events, the 16 yo who was found SNOOPING in our personal papers at fhs house, and yes these were hidden papers, not just lying out in the open.....AND who recorded onto our tape player many messed up things............ ughhhh...... mike and I are finally realizing the expression that the weding is about everyone else and not the bride and groom...
man i wouldn't even invite the kid HIMSELF if he has done that!!!!! you are being way to generous! good luck
