Its so funny how FH says he's leaving the wedding up to me but the minute I choose colors he hates everything. My last post was about him not wanting to wear ivory. Now hes telling me he hates the green color I picked for the bridesmaids dresses. Everyone I showed this color too loved it. He's the only one that had something negative to say about it. 'What are we having an Irish wedding'? Funny thing to say considering hes Irish but this green is not even a dark green. Its the green color on the Davids Bridal website on the first page. Its called Clover. I thought it would look beautiful next to Ivory/Champagne and would compliment everyones skin tone. But no he hates it. Im about to dump his ***...Okay maybe not but hes not making this fun anymore...I dont know what to do. Am I being a bridezilla for not including him on the colors of my bridesmaids dresses or his he being a Groomzilla?
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Are you kidding? I can not believe he even cares about that! He is definitely being groomzilla. I don't even know if my FH knows what color my girls are wearing.
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Are you kidding? I can not believe he even cares about that! He is definitely being groomzilla. I don't even know if my FH knows what color my girls are wearing.
EXACTLY!!! I told him, 'I didnt know you were in charge of picking out the color I want MYYY bridesmaids to wear' And he was like, 'I dont know if my friends are gonna like wearing green'. Like theyre gonna even CARE!!! Ugh
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FH could care less what color the girls wear. Tell him to cut it out and stop raining on your parade!!!
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Are you kidding? I can not believe he even cares about that! He is definitely being groomzilla. I don't even know if my FH knows what color my girls are wearing.
EXACTLY!!! I told him, 'I didnt know you were in charge of picking out the color I want MYYY bridesmaids to wear' And he was like, 'I dont know if my friends are gonna like wearing green'. Like theyre gonna even CARE!!! Ugh
Oh please. My FH is in a wedding in a few weeks and his tux has sage in it (I think. Or Celadon. Whatever). Anyway, the only reason I know that is b/c the bride told me. He didn't say a thing about it. He could NOT care less. Tell him to worry about something else. Say 'By the way, how's the shopping for my wedding gift coming along? That's what you should be concerned about.' That should shut him up!
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lol now I know what to call my fh. groomzilla. my fh has something negative to say about everything! oh yeah he hates the color purple too. but it's all about the bride!!! so he can kiss my a$$. he's even upset we have to have a purple probably mad hatter cake but oh well.
tell him to stop it, that it's supposed to be about the bride! and the whole wedding won't matter if your upset on your wedding day! I really didn't know men cared about this kind of stuff till I got engaged and my fh became a groomzilla. he even whined about the plates we picked out, he wanted some dark blue color meanwhile I wanted black & white which goes with everything. *sighs*
also that color will look great next to champagne & ivory.
the future mrs m
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my fh doesn't care as long as it doesn't look morbid.
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sorry you are going thru drama over colors. some guys are weird--just when you think they don't care about wedding things--they throw stuff at ya!!
guys suuuck sometimes!!!! i hope you can resolve it--maybe sit him down with like 10 wedding magazines and say 'great, you don't like what i like--then we will sit here together until we AGREE'! maybe if he's overwhelmed, he'll say 'okay you do it'
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I LOVE that clover color!
That's not right of him to leave all the planing to you and then complain after all is said and done. Did you order the dresses already?
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My FH is also opinionated - so I can totally relate.
I wanted champagne colored BM dresses. But HE wanted silver...so We compromised and now have a charcoal grey color.
I figure it's his day too, so I entertain his ideas. Maybe you can find a shade of green that you both like.
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The bridesmaids dresses get chosen by the bride and the bridesmaids who will be buying them. All the groomsmen have to do is rent the damn tux. They get no say. It's the bridesmaids that are shelling out all the cash. Groom gets no say in this, sorry. Unless he is paying for all the dresses.
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The bridesmaids dresses get chosen by the bride and the bridesmaids who will be buying them. All the groomsmen have to do is rent the damn tux. They get no say. It's the bridesmaids that are shelling out all the cash. Groom gets no say in this, sorry. Unless he is paying for all the dresses.
Sometimes they don't even have to do that, FH, his BIL and FFIL all have their own tuxes and are planning on wearing them. He's got NOTHING!
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Mine wanted to have a say in everything (well, almost everything). So before I actually booked or ordered anything I ran it by him first, and he was fine with everything, but happy that I included him on the planning.
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Im sooooooooooooo sorry to hear this is happening to you... I mean it's a nice thing that we wants to be involved but whats up with his closed mind and nasty mouth? He should have no say what so ever in the BM dresses - if you love them and the girls love them thats all that matters, he's not wearing them! OoOOoOoOo sometimes I just wanna smack guys in the head - they need to think before the speak! (mine inculded)
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O geez, my FH is like the complete opposite... he pretty much left everything up to me..which I kind of wish he got a bit more involved. Buuut... for example, the first color scheme I wanted to go with was chocolate and pink... but then I thought about and decided that FH hates brown and pink, so I'd spare him the pain and change the colors. Otherwise he could care a less. And his bestman (no groomsmen) is the same way... he'll do whatever I ask.
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The funniest part of the whole green dress fiasco is that FH never once in the whole 6 YEARS weve been together, mentioned that he hates the color green. (His eyes are green too, he must hate looking at himself in the mirror) We spoke about it more and decided we were done arguing and he apologized AGAIN for being a DIVA. Thats his new name by the way, DIVA. And the color of the dresses is going to stay green!
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LOL! I think the green you chose is really nice... I just took a peek off DB website.
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when I first started to pick colors etc,,,,,FH kept asking why I was showing him Bm dresses and colors etc....I got annoyed and picked the ugliest BM dress in the Ugliest color ( baby poop yellow LOL) and showed him that and said it was what I really wanted ,,,,,,after a few minutes he got up went on the comp and said ' ok hun you are right I do want to be involved.' and he has gone a bit overboard at times....but I try to not get mad and just go with the flow
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Wedding planning isn't easy, esp when you deal with FH's who don't help, or aggravate the situation.
One thing I learned over and over - communication is KEY. It's the only way to handle stress, anger, frustration with the other person by talking to them about how you feel. What his comments are making you feel like. How you want him to help. What you don't want from him, etc.
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Its so funny how FH says he's leaving the wedding up to me but the minute I choose colors he hates everything. My last post was about him not wanting to wear ivory. Now hes telling me he hates the green color I picked for the bridesmaids dresses. Everyone I showed this color too loved it. He's the only one that had something negative to say about it. 'What are we having an Irish wedding'? Funny thing to say considering hes Irish but this green is not even a dark green. Its the green color on the Davids Bridal website on the first page. Its called Clover. I thought it would look beautiful next to Ivory/Champagne and would compliment everyones skin tone. But no he hates it. Im about to dump his ***...Okay maybe not but hes not making this fun anymore...I dont know what to do. Am I being a bridezilla for not including him on the colors of my bridesmaids dresses or his he being a Groomzilla?
My girls are wearing Clover gowns from David's Bridal, too. It is definitely very complimentary with all skin/hair tones and looks beautiful w/ pink or cream flowers. Don't doubt your choice! My FH will also be wearing Ivory vest w/ black tux to match me and the GMs will be wearing platinum vests w/ black tuxes.
